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Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Monak, Jul 13, 2015.

  1. Monak

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    So insecure in a relationship with guy (having feelings for him )having attraction for girls. Dont know what to do ?whats the right step to do
     
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    What you think?
     
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    I guess to try with a girl
     
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    I think it would make you feel better to just openly talk to him about it, rather than trying out stuff with girls. Maybe tell him that you are bisexual, if you haven't yet and if you're comfortable with it ofc, and also just trust in yourself. If your insecurity is that you fear you won't feel for him as strongly because of girls or if you can't control your feelings, you could either trust in yourself to stay as dedicated to him and you want to be, or take a break and try to understand yourself. Hope this is helpful :/
     
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    Great than you and wish me luck
     
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    So him is still here talk darling talk see what person is he what is he what he thinks about everything don't be confused why to be insecure?Think what deeply you want and want to do.You scared you wont see him the same?Or its something else :frowning2:
     
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    Scared to make a change and dont look him the same way ...
     
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    You should see whats gonna happen try but with him i dont know what to tell you like you said after so many great moments yes it is strange not to look him who was with you everyday but you should do what you feel and probably try not to lose him completely because you are going to experiment you do not know what is gonna happen and how would you feel after everything he is not next to you :frowning2: Looks like he is not no one to you babe :/

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    And so much love and attraction for eachother i dont think will disapear but in the and its up in your head and heart do you really dont want him?Because you said you are going to experiment you dont know whats gonna happen and if you select guys you want him to be next to you?Its all in your heart :frowning2:
     
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    Well, Monak, if I remember correctly, you said you had already agreed on an open relationship? I suggest you make the best of that and try to find some intimacy with girls. I suggest you also keep talking to him about your feelings, like the things you don't like in your relationship. For example, you said he was a controlling person? I could see that when he reacted badly to you being into girls and trying to demean you. You should maybe tell him that he can't act like that to you. And if you can't, well... that will not be the healthiest relationship in the world to say the least :/
     
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    Thank you Becki i think that ur advice would be very helpfull for me
    And yes he is very demanding and last joggt he got a little bit deunk and there he gors all agressive and judgmental its crazy
     
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    Then hes gone you lost eachother and hes trying to cope with that .

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    And you will have the freedom now look on that way :slight_smile:
     
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    Any time Monak, anything you're wondering about just write
     
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    I agree with BeckiWoopx, if you don't stand up to his accusation and controlling behaviour they may grow in size. And remember that whenever you feel like you can't escape, guilty and bad about yourself it's very likely a sign that you're being manipulated. We're here to listen so feel free to post more if you need it. (*hug*)
    P.S. Don't let fear to decide your future. :icon_wink
     
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    Thank you paris. It looks like i teally get me how i feel yes i told him and I already set a meeting with one girl he is going jeloaus and watching me and controlling and i told him if he thinks he cant handle it to stay on side a little but no. And he is like a cat watching food when i am doing somthing lol its very annoying
     
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    Whats wrong now if you told him he probably somehow understand that and why secrets between you then :/ You should be open to one another i think.
     
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    He want to leave me she doesnt even wanna fight for me ... I feel like bad guy.
     
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    Monak you are not the bad guy.

    Could you please explain your situation a bit more?

    The girl you had a meeting with didn't want to fight for you?

    And your bf wants to leave you? Do you want to stay with him?

    You're a great girl, Monak. We here at EC support you! (&&&)

    Lots of love ~
     
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    To be honest being with him only bring me saddness he was very insecure the whole relationship and since i told him abt talking with that girl he became more and more jealous and insecure and with no confidence, about that girl i dont know we might meet. So pretty much i really feel bad for what happened between me and him but i know that has to stop that was my inner voice is telling me. Talking to that girl made me realize that there is somthinh better for me someone who will have fun and laugh with me not being all grumpy and to fight all the time. Someone who makes ur life better and ease you. That is what every person need not some boring insecure person who brings nothing but in their life unhappiness.
    He keeps talking insecure and pressure me abt everything so i decide to put him on distance i have to take of me right now i cant lose time to fix someone or to prove it, it just doesnt make any sense. I woul really need big advice right now and thank you to all for helping me
     
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    Finish it he is angry on you,you are angry on him thats it finish and everyone with their own path :frowning2: Anyway you dont have feelings for him so much like you had so probably smething changed these days and he is getting nervous about everything so yeah you probably had good times probably bad times but everything has an end.
     
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    Honestly i really feel bad but i think that i dont see him the same anymore its sad because all i was trying to do was both of us to be happy but i cant so nothing anymore.
    I guess it came to a point when i dont care anymore i still do in some way but its not like i use to