I always was attracted only to girls,i'm a 20 years old male,for half a year now i have a what if im gay thoughts,i seriously freaked out that i'll be gay or bi,i'm so scared of it. I always looked at girls and fantasized about girls never guys, since then i always look at guys and ask myself if i'm attracted to them and i just don't know what to think. sometimes i masturbate on gay porn to check and i can't even get erect.but there was sometimes when i masturbated thinking about guys and got erection,it happens after a days or weeks that i haven't masturbated and even thinking about nothing will get me erect. i don't see myself ever dating a guy.i will date only girls i want to return to what i was before this i want to fantasize only about girls like i was before...i'm getting sick of all the checking i make it making me very depressed. i think about it 24/7 and can't get it out of my head. And now i feel like my libido is nothing,i'll look at girls and feel nothing :icon_sad:. am i bisexual?
Hi Dantehero. You have made many threads such as these before, where you have explained that you have anxious thoughts about your sexuality. However, you have repeatedly expressed that you are only interested in women. Would you agree if I suggested that your thoughts over your sexuality are obsessive? They might also be elavated/exagerrated - you have said that you are only into girls and yet you have fears over being gay or bi, without giving any evidence for that that is the case. It's okay to question your sexuality. But obsessive thoughts can be a real drainer and be disruptive in your daily life. I recommend that you make an appointment with a therapist and discuss your obsessive thinking if you haven't already. You seem stressed, and talking to a therapist could really, really help you.
Anxiety is great at clouding your thoughts, whether it's far from the truth or not. If it weren't for my therapist, I don't know where I would be right now. I've been able to manage my anxiety and so I'm very proud of that. As Becki stated, it can be very draining to both your physical and mental health, and it could very well affect you in the long run. Instead of trying to figure out your orientation, why not start by targeting that anxiety of yours? Mind you that we get anxious because of fear, fear of something. Your job is to find out what is driving that fear? What are you afraid of? You'll make it out alive, been there done that. Things will get better, even if you don't realize it now. I can guarantee you that you'll be happy with whoever you turn out to be.
i really don't know where this fear comes from,i never fantasized about guys i never liked any guy.never looked at any guy in a sexual way and was never attracted to guys,i don't know what is wrong with me. everything i do i keep thinking about it,i just watched spongebob and asked myself if i'm attracted to him because he's a male,i'm just lost :icon_sad:
Whoa whoa slow down! No, being bisexual doesn't mean you are attracted to spongebob..! You might have some internalize homophobia going on which is causing you anxiety. Perhaps you deal with ridding your internalized homophobia first?? Many people have it, even people in the stage of realizing their orentation. Only you can decide your orientation. Whatever you turn out to be it's totally fine.
Look, what others said is true- you have issues which are best addressed in therapy. We are not equipped to help you with issues which are not about your sexual orientation- you could try finding other support groups/forums which deal with anxiety and obsessive thoughts. Reading that somebody would rather die than be attracted to the same sex is kind of painful to read & it is homophobic. You suffer from homophobia and need to get over it, because it is not good for you or others. But why would you want gay and bi people constantly reassure you that you are 100% straight, whilst at the same time telling us that being attracted to the same sex is so horrible, that you'd rather die than feel it? If you legitimately think that you are *not* 100% straight and that you need help with accepting this- we are here for you, but if you are straight, and all you want to do is for us to reassure you that you are indeed straight, and this need for reassurance comes from other psychological issues, we cannot help you with those psychological issues- this is beyond us.
You don't sound even remotely attracted to men, you sound like you have anxiety and that looking at any guy will cause a panic attack. This is not healthy.
Dante, I can repeat - everything you have said indicates that you are straight. I think, as Jax said, that targeting your anxiety (professional help would be a very good idea I think) would benefit you. ---------- Post added 18th Jul 2015 at 02:54 PM ---------- This is true. If you would like to talk to others online before seeking therapy (and again, I suggest you do seek therapy), there are sites much better equipped than this one. You can google "anxiety help online" or so and you can find different sites.
I just wanted to say that i have nothing against you people,i was never homophobic. i support the LGBT community and have nothing against gays or lesbians i guess should listen to your advice and go to atherapist,it's very hard to do but i can do this
Have a hug first (*hug*) Yes, you can do this! I know you can and I believe in you! I'm glad you want to see a therapist. PS. You can send me a wall message if you want to talk about finding a therapist or so.
