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gay but not attracted to men?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Wolfen, Jul 19, 2015.

  1. Wolfen

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    just wondering does anybody else feel like they are not attracted to guys or notice them when you are walking around town or at the beach and are always looking at girls, but can get off to gay porn easier than straight porn and fantasize about screwing a gay friend when masturbating to get off ? so confused
     
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    Hello Wolfen. Im new here too.
    Having a fantasy/image,getting off to it do not necessarily imply or reflect sexual orientation. Fantasy and reality operate differently when it comes to sexuality.
    It might also help as to why do you think gay porn or screwing your gay friend gets you off.
    You could very well be attracted to guys to an extent, and the fact that you don't seem to 'notice' them... do you think it could be a conscious thing?
     
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    Wow i didn't think I would find anyone in the same situation. But yeah this is kinda close to my situation. I feel nothing for girls and guys but I feel way more comfortable with guys and yeah whenever a errotical scene on tv with a girl starts I always sigh. To that last part yeah also that what im also feeling. But I can't help you in anyway (eccept talking about it) because I don't know what to do myself. Right now i try to move on with my live and not think about it but it would be great if I finnally knew the answer.
     
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    Hey, thanks for responding these things are so confusing sometimes I wonder if it has to do with the fact that growing up I was never around any females and my very first sexuel experiences at a very young age were with boys so at times I wonder if the reason I am turned on by gay porn is because I feel so much more comfortable around guys. It's so strange because all of my crushes were on girls and I look at a woman I find myself at times longing to hold them and smell them but I am rarely aroused by the thought of sex maybe this is due to never actually having an emotional and a sexuel connection with a girl. and about what you said about erotic scenes on tv sometimes I feel the same way I am hardly ever aroused by sex scenes on tv and sometimes if feels a bit awkward watching the scene.
     
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    It does appear that you are attracted to girls, on some level.
    However, when you say that you like to hold them and smell them, not really aroused by the thought of sex with them may hint that you are only romantically attracted, not sexually per se.
    Also, a lot of 'noticing' that you mentioned, could be because we are kind of conditioned by society and that kind of could translate into how we behave.
    I hope this helps a bit. :slight_smile: