I wrote this to another forum member but it still works regardless of context.* OK so I wrote this hours before I started sexting with this girl. Well it started off as just talking about my sexuality and trying to figure it out. Then it went into a normal conversation then sexting. She sent me pics and did the same, I enjoyed it. I also enjoy sexting with the guys I won't lie.* I usually go for guys because they're usually as horny as I am. I didn't get horny for her until we talked for a bit. I don't know i guess it built up some tension or something? I did feel like I genuinely enjoyed both. I'm not sure I like guys romantically. After I was done I didn't want to talk them but sexually it felt right. After I jacked off to the girl I felt ashamed for some reason. I guess because I asked for the nudes but she was fine with it. I know you can like girls aesthetically and I fear that how I like them. I don't feel like it's like that. I mostly think about kissing girls. That's probably what I want to do most.* But see then I can't tell of I'm overcompensating or denial or something. Sexually with guys is easy but I just haven't ever felt romantic for one. With girls I've felt both. I guess I don't wanna be gay because that's mean I pretty only fuck with guys. I wanna try girls before I cut them out of my life like that.* I did try straight again and it didn't feel right. I just know I'm not 100% percent straight and I kinda like it.
Maybe you're heteromantic bisexual, meaning you only really date girls, but you are sexually attracted to both.
OK I hear what you're saying but wouldn't just saying bi be easier. Just to make it simple and reduce any confusion?
Just saying bi could work! Choosing a label is up to you. The only problem with that is that guys might think they have a chance with you romantically even if they don't - let's say you sleep with a guy 2 times over the course of one week and the guy starts developing feelings for you - he thinks it might be mutual since you're bi. Well, you'd have to break his heart in that case, right? That's the only concern that I can think of...
Well I say bi because if you're having sex with someone you can develop romantic feelings for them and vice versa.
^this is actually not true for everyone at all. Some can have sex with guys and girls but can only be romantically attracted to one of them. I might be that... not sure. Whether or not you could develop romantic feelings for guys is something you should think about.
