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What is my orientation?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Wantsuki12, Jul 25, 2015.

  1. Wantsuki12

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    I get confused about my orientation so hopefully you guys can shed some light on it. I get stressed that I'm gay sometimes. I always had crushes on girls, have been aroused by them, and wanted girlfriends. I've never had a crush on a guy. I get confused if I'm gay because I love straight porn, but I feel gay that I like the sight of a guy naked having sex with a hot girl. I get aroused by lesbian porn also. I test myself to see if I'm gay by looking at naked guy pictures and gay porn. I don't get aroused at all from either of them. I look at the pictures and videos, and I feel uncomfortable and my heart starts beating faster and my penis actually tenses up and shrinks like if I was in a cold pool. I've never had the urge or desire to touch a man in any way. I like watching straight porn with straight sex more than lesbian porn, and it scares me that for some reason that could make me gay. It probably sounds stupid but let me know what you think, thanks.
     
  2. HardToSay

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    You sound very straight to me... :slight_smile:
     
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    You sound straight to me too.

    Maybe you are taking on people's judgement about you?

    what makes you exactly think you are gay?

    You definitely don't sound like you are sexually attracted to guys. You sound only attracted to girls.
     
  4. ModernCat

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    From what you've described, you sound like a typical straight men. Straight guys love lesbian porn. You enjoy watching men in straight porn becuse you want to be in the place of the guy perhaps?
     
  5. Jax12

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    You sound like a typical straight guy to me. From what you described, it sounds like you're using porn to determine whether you like men or not which that in itself is a mistake. Porn is very different than reality, and many people watch porn that do not align with their sexuality, and that is okay.

    You could enjoy being in the males position and having sex with the woman, this is certainly possible. And when it comes to porn, you may need something different from time to time, so it is also quite possible that porn is causing you some confusion.

    Nonetheless, it is your call on how you want to identify.
     
  6. unsureofmyself

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    Your sexuality must generally be based on what occurs in real life. A porn video cannot determine it, and the way you feel about women is a clear indication to me that you are quite likely straight, and just worried what others may think about you. If you like women like you say, people will figure that out soon enough, so dont worry ☺