hello , im really confused about my sexuality atm and could do with some help and advice. sometime last year i had the 'oh shit, i think i am lesbian' thought and i recently accepted that but i am now really confused about everything. firstly, gay ( malexmale) porn/smut really turns me on and thinking about it makes me so aroused. i can find guys attractive and appreciate them looking good but i rarely look at them and think they are hot. secondly, i find woman's bodies really attractive and always find myself checking out woman and looking back on my past there are lots of clues that i am attracted to woman. however i never get as aroused thinking about woman as i do with men. but my problem is i have convinced myself i am 100% lesbian and i do really want a girlfriend but i am worried that i have now repressed those straight feelings as now i am coming to terms with the fact i am probably bisexual but i convinced myself that the crushes on guys i have had were not real and now i find it really hard imagining myself dating a guy. i went through a phase where i thought i was asexual because i was hardly attracted to guys/girls but now i am becoming very attracted to guys again and not so much girls which upsets me because i really want a girlfriend and to be with a girl. i am just really confused and i thought i was lesbian but it seems not and i am so scared i was wrong that whole time and that i am not lesbian when i really want a girlfriend ( I am honestly just so so confused and I hate it. I am very emotionally attracted to girls but now i have stopped repressing my 'straight' feelings i am very attracted to guys too. I feel like I just liked being 'different' when I thought I was lesbian and now I am so worried that I don't like girls anymore. My concern is that given i have never been that attracted to guys, i just labelled myself as lesbian and now im getting older ive started actually being attracted to guys. But when i think about being in a straight couple i just start thinking about the girl rather than the guy. i am just so confused please someone give me some advice on how to work out my sexuality?? like i dont want to be with a guy but i am still attracted to them so it's like im in denial of my straight feelings instead of being in denial of my gay feelings !! at one point i thought i might be trans cause the thought of penetrating really turns me on but i am definitely not. i am just so confused ahhh. this sucks Basically I want to have a girlfriend but my anxiety makes me worry im not actually lesbian and i just want to be different and be a part of that community etc. even though there are lots of signs that i am lesbian. And now i am worring that i have supressed my straight feelings and now i am accepting all those feelings i have realised i am still attratced to guys to but i can't see myself with a guy anymore because i spent a year telling myself i would actually end up marrying a girl and now i don't let myself find guys attractive anymore. i'm pretty sure i am bi but i am just so worried and confused and anxiety isnt helping :eek: any advice would be so appreciated x
i think i am bisexual with a current preference towards girls! I just need to let myself be attracted to whoever i feel attracted to and stop questioning everything so much
I am good you realized that by yourself, plus after all being bi obviously doesn't prevent you from having a girlfriend if you suddenly turned straight then their would be no problem as it would mean you would not even fancy being with a woman and the need of being in a relationship one wouldn't exist.
yes i think identifying as bi is right for me as it means i can stop worrying about which gender i prefer and just live my life aha thank you for your reply
I have kind of had the same thought. I was attracted to both girls and boys, but most to girls. But I have found a "label" for it. HomoRomantic Bisexual. If you are a girl and you are attracted to both girls and boys, but most girls, or if a boy is bi, but most attracted to boys, this is the "label" I use to it. Hope it helps. Not so many people have heard of this, but I heard it on YouTube.
