Okay, I'm an 18 y/o male and I have always thought I was straight until recently. Not sure of the levels of detail that are accepted here but hopefully it's not too bad. I was recently watching straight/lesbian porn and out of curiosity went onto gay porn. I ended up masturbating to it and it made me more excited than normal porn ever had in a long time. Ever since then I've been worrying about this and it's really starting to bug me. I have NEVER been attracted to a male in real life. I can say that certain males are good looking etc, but that doesn't make me bi, does it? The thought of kissing/loving another man and having a proper relationship just doesn't do anything for me. I've only ever had sexual encounters with women and enjoyed them. I've liked women all my life and have never liked men. Could this be because it's new? Normal porn is boring now. Whenever I go back and watch gay porn it makes my heart beat and I get really anxious and start to shake. Could this be because it's new/something I "shouldn't" be doing? I have no feelings towards men in real life, It's just the porn. I've only ever felt attracted to women in real life... I'm really confused/worried. :bang: (No offence to any gay/bi people). Hopefully I didn't go into to much detail.
You sound pretty straight to me. Porn isn't an indicator of your sexual orientation. You're stressing over nothing.
Only you can answer the really. I have a few friends who are straight but enjoy gay porn. Some even have men join them in the bedroom with their GF's but with rules of do's and don'ts. Look at (can't believe I'm using 50shades as I hate it lol but...) All the lonely house wives that read that and became turned on by the whips and chains. Doesn't mean they want to be cuffed, whipped or dominated. It's just something that's a turn on, you will come across more things that do it for you but won't want to try. ---------- Post added 7th Aug 2015 at 03:16 PM ---------- Like Emerson said porn isn't an indicator of sexual orientation.
Thanks for the replies... It's still really getting to me. If i see a male who is obviously good looking, I question whether I find him attractive. Same when I see an attractive female. I question whether or not I actually find them attractive or not... It's so confusing >.<
This sounds pretty straight to me. It's just porn, just fantasy. There are plenty of porn things people read or watch that are fun to read/watch but would be a nightmare in real life. Chill out hun, you're straight but have a few kinks in your porn tastes. Also, people can find anything and anyone attractive. It's a matter of if you are attracted TO them. If you can see another guy and think "Well, he's handsome isn't he?" while still being straight. That's really different from "Wow, he's so handsome. I wish I could wrap my arms around him and kiss him and take him home with me."
Thank you. I've never had the "Wow, he's so handsome. I wish I could wrap my arms around him and kiss him and take him home with me" feeling with any males before. Only with women. Thank you for the reply.
It's hard for us to dispel this question for you when we can't really gauge the type of psychosocial thinking going on behind your mind. If these reoccurring thoughts or "fetishes" as we'll just call them for now, are becoming more prevalent to the point where you're questioning your own understanding of what you like. Then perhaps you need to do some social experiments. Try socializing and perhaps even casually dating another man. The former isn't the same as being around male peers whom you engage in recreational social activities with; you need to immerse yourself in a situation that is a good benchmark for indicating whether or not you have a romantic or sexual attraction to men. Try connecting with gay men on a social level and see how your night plays out and how your feelings develop towards them. Casual dating is a good way to indicate how you should gauge your feelings for other men. Or even long distance conversing is a good way to develop your understanding of your feelings overtime.
I've never met/seen/spoken to a man who makes me feel like I want more from them. I have no other desire to be with them/kiss them etc in real life. Fantasy/porn is another story though. It's not like I want to cuddle and kiss them but more just sex... :/
A suggestion I often make in these sorts of sitautions is to spend some time -- maybe a couple weeks -- masturbating without using porn at all. If you're used to only using porn it will take you some time to, uh, make that work, but it will happen if you're patient. Once you're there, then you can try fantasizing about girls in one sesslon (preferably not about porn scenes you've watched), and then about guys in another session... and then just letting your mind wander, without any expectations, and seeing where it leads you. Usually by doing that, you can get a better idea of where your arousal is actually coming from and what's triggering it (guys or girls or both). Porn does desensitize so masturbating without is a much more reliable indicator. Also, if in fact you do have attraction to guys, it can sometimes be masked by regular use of porn so letting go of it for a while will help you get a clearer picture.
