Gay guys - straight porn

How about lesbian porn? If it turns you on then you're bi or straight.

I think it's normal to like straight porn though - maybe you focus on the guy, I guess.

 

Hello myself123.

I feel I'm able to relate to your situation. My orientation is lesbian but I identify as genderqueer. I have never been with a person who identifies as a straight male, or a man.

I have watched heterosexual porn though and find it arousing when the male character is satisfied. I'm unsure what it all means to me as I've not been with a man, nor do I really want to be at this point in my life. I'm unsure what to make of my arousal in terms of heterosexual porn.

 

Hi Mysel123,
I'm a 24yo male.
Probably gay / definitely at least bisexual
Watched straight porn my whole life (tried gay porn for the first time about 6 months ago - I can get off to it but straight porn is just better.)
Lesbian porn has always been a huge turn on for me
Whilst watching straight porn I spend way more time focusing on the guys than girls but I can focus on either
I know of lesbians that exclusively watch male gay porn

What do I conclude from all of the above? Porn is a very bad indicator of sexuality. In fact for me personally - I think porn has had a huge influence in my struggles to understand and accept my sexuality - it blurs the lines between fantasy and reality - sexuality can be confusing enough without it.

My advice? If at all possible you should rely exclusively on real life experiences.

 

I only watch straight and lesbian porn, but I'm gay. Ever thought of considering yourself transgender? I'm pretty sure that's my deal.

 

I can definitely relate to what you described, myself123. I'm 27, I've always identified as gay (full Kinsey 6), and I've never been with a woman. The idea of having actual sex with an actual woman makes me very uncomfortable, but lately I started watching straight/bi porn and have been able to get off. I've even been able to get off just fantasizing about being with a woman (usually in an mmf threeway context). I don't seem to be attracted to women in my daily life, but maybe I'm just in denial. Could I be bi or sexually fluid? It's all very confusing.

 

Aegosexual / Autochorissexual: a disconnection between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacking any desire to be a participant in the sexual activities therein

Had a similar thing happen to me. Confused me until I saw that.
Liking something does not mean you want to do it. Think about all those people watching their favorite sport but do not want to play their favorite sport. You can just like the concept or the picture. But you do not have to like the actual thing.

 

this is a good question and one that i have thought about many times. i think my porn habits have caused me great confusion about what i like in real life. i know that i can get off to both straight and gay porn and that in real life i always notice hot attractive girls and fantasies about being with them but when i think of sex with them it gives me anxiety this could be due to my belief that i am ugly. and all my crushes have been on girls and never guys but for some reason the thought of gay acts can be be very arousing. all i know is that when i was a teen i used to love straight porn i would watch it all the time but as i have gotten older i find it takes longer to find a perfect video of straight porn to get me off. i am not sure if this is due to become desensitized to porn or if my true orientation is gay and that is why gay porn turns me on so much. also i find that a lot of the vaginas in porn are kind of ugly because they have been overused and are to big and sloppy compared to girls in real life.

 

I personally do not think what type of porn you watch and resultant reaction is a good indicator of sexuality. Humans are basically animals, thus any kind of sex catches our eyes. Our closest cousins, bonobos, perform sex to cope with everything. We humans are sexual creatures.

You should ask yourself, what do you have eyes for? Who do you hunger to be with? Who do you hang out with? Who do you share life experiences with? Who do you want to cuddle with? Who do you share your dreams with?

Hope this helps.

bonobo info:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bonobo

 

Im 21, im pretty sure im gay but only recently..

Im like you though, i notice girls out and about and I like straight porn but I feel like IRL it wouldn't be the same as in my head. When I watch a guy/girl in porn I can imagine being the girl or the guy and both turn me on but the imagining myself as the girl takes less effort than the guy. (If i imagine myself having sex with a girl... i feel like I might feel a bit lost and not sure what to do but I know that I want to make her scream - Is that kinda how you feel?)

EDIT: I also find that when I imagine being the girl - I naturally just go with the feelings and i dont really need to put in any effort because the fire is burning on its own. When I imagine being the guy, i lose concentration of what Im doing and my brain usually just goes blank eventually. I dont find it as easy to go with it.

I still feel like in the back of my head that Im bisexual - but I try to lay this down to that tiny bit of hope that i might meet that "perfect girl"... When girls catch my attention I try to stay calm and down to earth so my OCD doesn't take over. I sometimes think "wow shes hot.... she looked at me, maybe she likes me... but GREAT im gay, i cant go over there" and that sorta makes me feel depressed. Knowing that Im in a situation where if i was straight, i could go and talk to her and maybe have a laugh. Its kinda frustrating.

 

I disagree. Porn preference is separate from sexuality. For example, I do relate with the statement the OP made, I consider myself gay, but I am turned on by straight porn. In fact, I prefer straight porn. I find gay porn to be a bit boring for some reason. I also have watched and enjoyed "lesbian" porn.