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Straight, Bi or curious?!

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by howtosavealife, Aug 19, 2015.

  1. howtosavealife

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    Okay so i'm about to be a senior in high school...Everything's been going great. I've had a boyfriend, a fantastic one at that who I was very much attracted to. Romantically and sexually, no i've never done anything sexual with one, but i've been kissed and felt the butterflies and the whole shabang.

    I also used to pretend my favorite male celebrities who I fawned over, were my husbands. Like it was pretty intense. But, at the same time I get very turned on by lesbian porn and especially boobs. Like i've always had a strange attraction to them...I've never had a crush on a girl or even wanted to be with one sexually but recently i've had this feeling in my stomach saying that i'm like not straight and I don't really like guys and i've just been pretending. But, i've never felt that way before...

    I'm so confused and it's making my stomach go in knots. I have absolutely nothing against people who are gay or lesbians, i'm even close friends with a lot but it's just not the life I thought I would ever live...It doesn't feel right to me. I still know in my heart I want to marry a man and have kids with him but I just want this feeling to go away...Help, please?! What are your thoughts?!
     
  2. Invidia

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    You sound to me like you're bi-curious. :slight_smile: Kind of like me, although *aherm* I'm not the same with the not having wanted to be with a girl sexually... anyways.

    First, if you look at romantic and sexual attraction on spectra. You said you have virtually no romantic attraction to women, right? Well, that's that spectrum, in that case - zero female attraction. And for the sexual attraction spectrum, you said you've never wanted to be with a woman? And also, porn isn't a very good indicator. But you said you like boobs. Do you like boobs in the real world too? Maybe you can think a little bit about stuff like that. Maybe try fantisizing about women and see if it turns you on.

    My advice is, take a step back and take a look at what you know. You seem to know pretty well that you only like men romantically. You also know you might have sexual attraction toward females. So what does that mean practically for you? Does it mean that you want to try with a girl, now or maybe sometime in the future?

    Hope that helps!
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  3. mc09

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    I know you are very confused, but you need to calm down and relax. Maybe it doesn't feel right to you because you've grown up with the notion of marrying a man. My advice, let yourself actually have those feelings. There's nothing wrong with having them. Try and picture yourself with a female, marrying and having children, and see how you feel about that. Do you get the warm, fuzzy feeling or do you feel nothing at all. Like I said earlier, there's nothing to feel bad about. Just feel.