I always thought I was physically attracted to women and romantically attracted to men, but since I recently decided to identify as gay, and to begin coming out as such, I've begun to notice men a lot more and women a lot less. I wonder if acknowledging my attraction to men has freed some mental block I had, or if I'm just playing head games with myself? When I'm attracted to a woman—which as I stated before is happening less and less—I feel it right around the crotch region. But when I'm attracted to a man, I feel it all over my body. I don't know...I think I still have some guilt about my feelings toward men. I guess being romantically drawn toward men was safe in a way that being physically turned on by men isn't. Now I have acknowledged that physical impulse, and it has opened a whole new can of worms.
I know what ya mean.. I experience it too sometimes. you just have to realize how fluid sexuality really is. As you might know there is a spectrum, and you can be 100% or 96% or 14% of gay, straight, aro, demi, asexual, etc. Don't focus on a label but on finding your spectrum and then if you want, label it, just remember it's not as important. What's really important is finding your happy medium or such.
I'm a lesbian who in has been out for a rather short time after spending my life in the closet. I posted the exact same sentence with the words flipped- since coming out I notice the women a lot more an the men a lot less. I think it's definitely because we've finally given ourselves the freedom to truly look at the gender we are truly interested in. And yes, it is more of a whole thing...because instead of just "wanting" to connect, you are actually sensing a connection. It's a different experience. You're no longer censoring your own mind.
