How exactly would you define a person's sexual orientation?

I am a 35 year old male who is questioning my sexuality. Can sexuality be variable? Are you born with it, can it be learned, or could it be environmental? I have used the term gay or bisexual when defining my sexual orientation. I used the term gay for years but have had doubts about it especially over the past several months. When I was 17 I originally came out as bi but had many uncertainties back then about it. At age 18 or 19 when I entered the gay community and I was told by other gay men I was probably gay and not bisexual. When I was a kid around 7-15 i hung out with other boys my age and they would talk about other girls and I could see what they were talking about but there were some of them I had crushes on. I had crushes on two teachers at age 7 who were both gorgeous and I wish I could have been in both their classes at the same time. I also had a crush on a number of boys between age 7-15. They would make me feel gooey inside or turned on. Seeing them shirtless would make me feel like I was going to get off without even touching myself and even to this day they do.
I remember being also a teenager and I remember seeing two women kiss and that turned me on. Parts of me wondered what would that be like to have been a woman and be with a woman. In addition, I would also have erotic pictures of naked men and women go through my head as a teenager. I have had a few nocturnal emissions from dreaming of women and quite a few over the years from dreaming of men. They were all of a sexual nature.
I have identified as gay for quite some years and have had sex with quite bit of men and women. It seemed like wasn't so crazy about having sex with women till more recently which has been over the past couple months. I even would even have trouble getting off with men and would not climax. Like I said recently I have been looking at women and have been getting off at watching them especially two women. At one point I was wondering if I was starting to become straight. No, because I still am just as attracted to males as I am females. I am sexually attracted to male bodies, faces, nice butts, but I am not all that crazy about penis. A penis does not really turn me on that much. Women I tend to like big boobs, vaginas, and I also like their seductive looks. However in public I tend to get turned on immensely by males who are shirtless or their butt. It is almost to the point where I feel like I could get off without touching myself. However when I masturbate my orgasms tend to be just as big when looking at two females vs. two males. Sometimes not only do I get off about having sexual intercourse with a woman but also thinking I am a woman having sex with another woman. I tend to wonder if this part of me that likes women has developed over time, if it's environmental, if it is learned behavior from society, or I was born with it. Usually out in public or in the presence of women I can get turned on but not to the point of where I am going to get off without touching myself like I do men. When I watch lesbian pornography however I can get turned on pre ejaculation and get off. I even get heterosexual urges at night. I wonder in a way what my sexuality encompasses.

 

Yeah, I feel though I would be more closer to a 4. I tend to feel more sexually attracted to men than women. I guess the term homosexual or bisexual does not matter one way or the other.

 

I tend to like men to look like men and women to look like women. I am not into transgender or anything like that but I have a transgender brother who was my sister and I love him very much. I like women who have big boobs and I like vagina. I love men who wear jockstraps and have a nice butt. I also like lipstick lesbianism but can't classify as a lesbian because I am a man. Sometimes I wonder if I am a gay man with a lipstick lesbian trapped in my body.

 

I actually have redefined my sexuality and have told some people that I believe I am bi. Like I said I tend to get a Kinsey 3 or 4 when I take the test. Though I think I am a bit more gay leaning than straight leaning. Like 60% men and 40% women. When other gay guys told me I was probably gay and not bisexual and some of them would make fun of the term bisexual. One older gay guy laughed and said bi me something and I will get sexual. I almost felt like telling him to stop being such a queen about it. Sometimes I feel like I would rather just identify as gay instead of bi because of the social stigma placed on it. It seems as if bisexual is a curse word in both the straight and gay community especially if you identify as a bi male.

 

I probably could go with a transgendered person as long as they are completely changed with all male parts and all female parts. I also took a gay test last night which featured very hot women with nice bodies and boobs. The first thing when the picture came up I would notice the cleavage and the boobs and they turned me on. I don't think a guy who is a Kinsey 6 would like the idea of having sex with her or getting aroused by her nice boobs.

 

Do you remember Queer As Folk episodes? I thought Michael, Justin, Lindsay, Brian, and Hunter were hot. Although I thought Melanie, Ted, and Emmett were pretty cute as well. It seems like bisexuality was not really mentioned in the episodes. It seemed like Lindsay and Hunter were likely bisexual the way they were potrayed. Hunter was out hustling and he also got a big crush on Brian. However, he meets a girl named Callie and after that it was assumed he was straight. I think he may have been one of the bisexual characters as well as Lindsay because she had an affair with another man. In that show it seemed like everyone was potrayed as gay or straight and that nothing in between existed. It seemed like most of the characters potrayed would have been a Kinsey 5 or 6 but Hunter seemed like he may have been around a Kinsey 3 and Lindsay around a 4.

 

Here is something kinky I like. I like to watch a hot woman put on a strap on and penetrate her hot man.

 

I am not as crazy about getting penetrated. I usually like watching another person get penetrated. In the past I used to like it more but in recent years it has not been something I am crazy about. Another thing do you think Brian would have made a good bisexual male in Queer As Folk. Although he seemed to have screwed a lot of men in each season.

 

Yeah, Ted seemed like he may have been a good male bisexual character. There is one guy on YouTube who identifies as bisexual but you would think he was completely gay by his mannerisms. Though maybe he is like he says. I guess sexuality has nothing to do with masculinity or femininity when being gay, lesbian bisexual, or straight etc. Though it can be pretty obvious in some people. Some jerk left a hate message for this guy on his account and they called him a bisexual queen. Also do you believe people who say they were completely gay and ended up marrying a woman and having a family are faking it or may have been bi all along? They will say they went to conversion therapy and say that God healed them of their homosexuality.

 

Why is that I am more naturally sexually atttracted to shirtless men or their face and butt usually more often? It is mainly in their presence sometimes I feel like I am going to get off in my pants or shorts. I definitely have gotten aroused by some women in public but it doesn't seem quite as intense or as often. They usually are wearing like skimpy shorts or revealing clothing. However, I can fantasize and look at lesbian porn and get off to it and I have incredible orgasms. That is why I have had such a hard time deciding whether I am gay or bisexual. I also do not get grossed out by women it actually feels pretty hot especially two women.