Today has been a really long day for me. I've spent at least 5-6 hours today online, trying to figure out my sexuality. Today I labeled myself as bisexual, and it felt so good to finally be done worrying about my sexuality. But that only lasted for a good hour. I was testing myself today by watching lesbian porn. I got an erection at first and started masturbating to it, but I lost my erection. I then went onto gay porn and sure enough, I got an erection within the first two minutes (It wasn't a full erection but a lot bigger then what I had before). I started to lose it over time, and I went onto lesbian porn to finish and by the time I was done (I did orgasm) I was pretty much flacid I can think of a few reasons on why this might have happened. Lately, I have been masturbating A LOT (like 3-5 times a day) because I wanted to see what turned me on more (this was the only time I masturbated to porn) This has rarely happened any of the other times I've masturbated in the past. Can I still label myself as bisexual if my attraction for men and women are changing everyday? (Sometimes I am more attracted to women but other times men) if I do feel more of an attraction towards men cb I still label as heteroromantic? Please answer I'm really scared I don't want to be gay most of my family would reject me. I figured if I was at least bisexual I wouldn't have to come out.
Of course you can still identify as bisexual if your level of attraction varies. As for the whole romantic thing, have you ever experienced romantic feelings for the same sex or just with the opposite sex? If it's just for the opposite sex than yes that would make you heteroromantic but the fact that you're heteroromantic doesn't mean that you're any less bisexual. I hope I helped (*hug*)
You can label yourself anything that feels right to you. Heck, people label themselves anything that they want, and I don't see why you can't too. I just suggest finding something you're comfortable with and trying to go down that road, and if it doesn't work, then switch to another road.
First of all, you shouldn't rely on porn to determine your sexuality. If I was straight and watched a lot of lesbian porn, that doesn't make me a lesbian. so just rely on your attractions, fantasies, and feelings.. and just give it time and if you are gay or bi, you don't need to come out till ur comfortable ;3
I agree with the person above, porn is a terrible way to determine your orientation. It sounds like you have spent a long time worrying/analysing your sexuality- I can definitely relate to that! I'm no expert but here is what I think: Trying to figure yourself out can be really stressful but I think right now, a lot of your problems may be related to anxiety. I think that sexuality is such an easy thing to obsess about as it is inherently so ambiguous. For example, a few weeks ago, I was obsessing about my sexuality. I was constantly checking who I was more aroused by- men or women etc.. and I mean constantly (I couldn't think about anything else!) It got so bad that despite being attracted to men my entire life beforehand, I was suddenly no longer aroused by men I had found attractive in the past. This made me even more anxious/confused and even more obsessive. I have really tried to relax about the whole thing though and lower my anxiety and my attraction to men has returned. My point is that if you are so wound up in trying to determine your orientation, you are probably pretty anxious and anxiety can easily get in the way of trying to figure it out. So, I would suggest laying off the constant masterbation for a while, I don't think it is doing you any favours in working out your orientation. You can label yourself whatever you want but like I said at the beginning though, porn is a terrible way to determine your orientation. It is much more relevant to think about who you are attracted to in real life. I hope that helps a bit.
I agree with gleek99 and HC1234. Porn is a lousy way to determine your sexuality. Real life is what matters. And try to relax and not obsess so much. Also, I agree that if you are gay or bi, and your family does not approve, it is totally okay to wait until you are out of the house, independent, and in a safe environment to come out. That said, I'd also say that if you are bisexual, you will eventually (when its safe) want to come out about that, too. I'm some kind of bisexual, and I figured I could pretend I was straight for a long time, but I always ended up feeling unhappy and closeted when I pretended to be straight. I'm out about it now to my close friends, my parents, and the people I date, and I feel much better.
