bisexual? considering suicide.

hi im struggling a lot to and I don't know if I what I say even holds any value but there is nothing wrong with being bisexual or gay or straight, all that matters is being a good person. I get what your saying about lesbian porn but porn in general really isn't that natural and they are actresses some are better than others. I think that if you really love someone you wont cheat and hey theres the possibility of a threesome. sorry if this wasn't helpful

 

This is a hard one that i cant answer but please dont hurt your self we are here for you if you need someone to talk to message me im a great listener. Please please dont do anything to hurt your self we are all here for you.

 

I am a bisexual male and I understand what your going through. I hope things get better for you. Please don't end your life because of who you are. It seems like when your in the middle of the spectrum it seems like people like to try to pull you way and the other pulling you the other way. I think lesbian and bisexual women rock.

 

I understand how you feel, but please, please don't do anything to hurt yourself. Things will get better, and you'll become more comfortable with your sexual orientation. It might be rough now, but I promise everything will be okay. You can message me if you want to or just need someone to talk to. I'm here for you, okay? Please, please don't hurt yourself.

 

Hi, blackoutbear, and welcome to EC. I think you've come to the right place for support, and I hope you'll be able to work through all this.

Understanding your orientation and gender isn't always easy. If you have OCD, it does complicate things, but you have to remember there's no rush. You're actually really young. Plenty of people don't fully understand their sexuality until later.

You're not "wrong," you're questioning. You're really far from being married to a woman, so don't think about that just yet. Try to do what feels good for yourself, now and in the years to come. There's nothing wrong with dating for a while without committing yourself for life.

I'm bisexual and pretty close to your age. Whatever you turn out to be, it will be fine. This confusion won't last forever, I promise. Please, contact me if you want to talk.

 

Why don't you give time to time and see what happens ? you may or may not cheat and you may or may not get married, so why convince yourself at only 18 that you'll end up marrying a woman that you will cheat on? Life is unpredictable. 6 years ago did you think you would be on that forum posting this ? did you think you would have those kind of thoughts ? I doubt so.

Nobody knows what the future helds and that's one of the beauties of life. So you can try and come up with a billion scenarios about how your life will be and convince yourself that it's exactly what is going to happen and there is no escaping it or you sit back and let it unfold and have fun figuring out whether you were right or wrong.

There is something much worse than being wrong about your orientation and cheating on your future wife with a man and it is not being there to find out if you would because you had (foolishly) chosen to take your life at 18.

After all what if you are meant to happily marry a woman, raise two amazing kids with her and a dog ? Wouldn't you at least want to be there to find out the name of the dog ? I know I would.

So just relax and enjoy what the day brings you and don't over think what tommorrow may look like.

Good luck and hope you'll come back in a couple of years to tell us about your wonderful wife and how you did not cheat on her! :icon_wink

 

It sounds like you're pretty much okay with your own identity. My advice for you is don't over think things. Take things slowly. The future, we never know what's ahead, so there's no point in worrying about that. If you like women right now, that's fine. If you like men later, that's fine. There's a difference between preference and cheating so you shouldn't worry about that. If you have good values and morals, then you're most likely not a cheater. It could be prevented, it's not like it's written in stone that you're going to be this, this or this, you know? Therefore, I advise you to not over think things so much. Breathe and take it a step at a time. You're still REALLY young and there's a lot of life ahead of you. A lot of things you want to live for, so don't ever think about leaving this world okay? Life is a beautiful thing. We all have our own battles and as long as we come out of them, you'll be the best person you'd ever want to be.

 

Hello Blackoutbear.
I hope your feeling better today.

I noticed from your post that you seem to have anxiety about potentially coming out to your family, as you say they are homophobic. It seems to me that fear is creating a false feeling of pressure that you need to figure everything out right now.

It might help reduce that sense of pressure to consider getting some physical distance from your parents for a while now that you are 18, or once you graduate from high school. (I am not advocating running away though - its very important to finish school!)

Getting away from your family's homophobia for a while will probably help you feel better about yourself, and help create a more relaxed, low pressure environment for you to try relationships with women and with men, and figure out what feels right to you, without having to worry about what your family thinks.

Good luck, and hang in there.
It does get better, I promise.