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If you're turned on by "gay love," are you gay?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Kodo, Aug 24, 2015.

  1. Kodo

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    Just a general question.

    If you are, for lack of better words, "turned on" most by the prospect of gay love when compared to straight/other love - does this mean you're gay?

    I find gay relationships to be far more attractive than straight ones, honestly. Though I myself was raised in a fiercely homophobic environment. I think this might be affecting my own perceptions, creating a natural resistance to perhaps admitting that I might possibly be gay.

    If I were considering a romantic life, I would prefer female, I think. Though physically and even emotionally I am more attracted to men. Maybe this is due to my wish to simply be "normal" and accepted by my family, and by society. Maybe this is why I would sooner identify as bisexual or even asexual before admitting to be gay. Maybe it's because of the fact that I am transgender it creates even more doubt and uncertainty, as if a "real" trans-man should like women like most men do.

    I'm a bit confused, just trying to get to the bottom of it all. Thank you for any responses.
     
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    Interesting question!! I don't know if "turned on" by gay love is the right expression haha, but ever since I realised that I was bisexual, and that romantic gay movies existed I find watching straight romance super boring. I guess that might be a reflection of my sexuality? And gay couples are really cute! Maybe it's just something we can relate to more... I'm not sure... But I know there are heaps of straight girls who like watching gay movies, or ship characters in a gay relationship together (even if they're probably straight) :lol: Interested to see what others have to say on this, though :slight_smile:

    I'm sorry to hear about your problems with this, too :icon_sad: Don't worry about what other people think. Suppressing how you feel and attractions to people can really bring you down...
     
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    I agree with waternation. Maybe "turned on" isn't quite the phrase I would use but I definitely feel all warm and fuzzy seeing a gay or lesbian couple. There's just something so satisfying about seeing other happy people.