Hello guys, as you may know, a few months ago i started questioning my sexuality, im a 21 year old virgin male and i always liked girls, date them, kiss them, etc. All my life i thought i was straight untill a few months that i started checking boys as well. I dont know what it is, i just check them out if theyre good looking, and sometimes look at theyre bodies, i havent fantazise with another male because in my mind it doesnt feel right, but im also afraid that im in denial. I know most gays know they are gay at a very young age, but what happen to those who realize it later in life? HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU ARE GAY? All these thoughts in my mind are terrifying me, to the point that im afraid to check out boys and forse myself to check out girls, (even if this "checks" dont come naturally)... At this point i dont know what i am and what im into, i even stop masturbating because im afraid of finding out... I wish you guys could share your stories on how you reallize you like youre same sex and/or some advice to help me find what my sexuality is. Sorry for the bad english and thanks
Don't be afraid, gay is not so bad or scary. I'm 14 now and I realized that I was gay when I was 10, definitely soon. And the way I found it so easy, just like you, I like checking out men, liked Korean boy bands, muscle guys, I watch porn and I like the actor more than the actress, I don't like doing boy's stuffs( soccer fighting games fighting in real life dirty talk ) I play with girls the most. I found I'm different from the other boys I fell in love with my male classmate. Now I don't watch porn anymore, I watch gay porn. Geehee!
Try the beach test. The next time you're at a beach, think about who you're looking at. I mean REALLY looking at. I was at the beach with a straight friend. He was commenting on the babes. As much as I tried to see what he saw, th girls just weren't doing it for me.
thanks emwk and guitar, im new to this blog and i dont know how to use well, but yes i would be interested in support. My history is a little bit different that yours because, ive always check out girls in the past, im a virgin but i masturbate to straight porn and focus more on the girl, i dont remember having any crush on male guys in the past or checking them out, until the last two months... it all started watching sense8 and being bouth uncomfortable with the gay scenes but also curious, and after that i noticed myself nothicing more on the guys in movies than the girls... like i said im a virgin, i havent had sex neither with boys or a girl, so thats what makes me uncertain about my sexuality...
Don't rush to find out what your preference is. Let time work it's magic and you will know gradually what you prefer. If you prefer to check out men instead of women, watch gay porn vs straight porn or fantasize about another male, I'd recommend you to not hold yourself back into making yourself "believe" something because you can't understand it. Accept the way you are for who you are and just explore your options. You could spend a few months checking out only guys and appreciating their good looks to later realize that they may not give you the same level of satisfaction a woman might and you may then feel that you could be bisexual or bicurious. Enjoy the conflict of the unknown and just explore what you're mind wants. The answers will come automatically.
hiathaexpress wow thanks man i think thats exactly with ill do... today i just realize that i spend all day questioning about everything sex related and that makes nervous and even depressed, i think the best option is like you said stop questioning and letting it flow... i was very scared of being gay but today i said to myself: "what if you are?" if i am i will feel better because i wont spend all my day thinking and in frustration so i guess ill just let myself flow, thanks to all of you, i find this forum very supportive. i will tell you about my livings later on. adios!
I'm 22 and I didn't realize I was gay until the last year or 2. I'm still coming to terms with it. I think I'm finally letting myself be and feel the way I've always wanted to, even though I'm not out. You gotta want to really know yourself, which I desperately do at this point. I've felt so lost for so long and I'm becoming a little more comfy in private with who I am. I'm finding that this takes A LOT of soul searching. I'm trying to be patient, but it's really hard. Pay attention to the signs, whatever those might be. And remember, you may not be at either end of the spectrum. You may be fluid, bi, pan. And it doesn't have to be split up evenly. It's not like every bisexual is 50/50. Most have a preference. Use resources but don't feel like you have to match up with anyone else or any specific type. Try the Kinsey Scale. Take silly online quizzes. The results and quizzes may be bogus but they're definitely thought provoking. It's been helping me out! Best of luck!
thanks to all of your respond, i will take your advice and stop worrying about, today i realize that wheter im gay, bi, or straight it HOW I AM so it can be that bad at the end. I will continue analyzing myself to determine my sexuality, i will tell you what i find out at the end thanks for your support amigos
