Are most bi men typically gay leaning?

I would say that it is more likely that the percentage of bisexual men who lean towards men and women is close. I wouldn't go as far as saying 50/50 but it could be somewhere around there. Something like this would need research before you can come to any conclusion. Just my personal opinion.

 

This is totally a provisional nomenclature I've come up with, but here's the terms I use for the different numbers on the Kinsey scale:
0 - Totally Straight
1 - Mostly Straight
1.5 - Heteroflexible (this mostly me joking around)
2 - hetero leaning bisexual
3 - pure bisexual
4 - homo leaning bisexual
5 - mostly gay
6 - totally gay.

As for the prevalence of these different types in the population at large, I'm not really sure.
The best work I've seen is recent work by Dr. Lisa Diamond, and the graphs she showed (for both men and women) were pretty bimodal (that is, two peaked), with a lower numbers of "pure" bisexuals. But, interestingly, the numbers of people at Kinsey 1 & 2 where much larger than she anticipated, and may even be larger than the number of mostly or totally gay folks out there. Google around for the video of the presentation she gave at Cornell University sometime in the last couple of years to see the graphs.

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So to answer your question, I think 2s may be more common then 4s.

 

Lol. That is funny.
So, the cool thing is that you are a rare, beautiful and unique snowflake.
That's something to be proud of, if you ask me.

Where did you find a test for the Klein Sexuality Scale that scores so precisely that it gives scores to two significant digits?! There must have been a LOT of questions!!
It sounds super awesome. I'd like to take it. Seriously, let me know where you found it.

I've read Klein's book on bisexuality, and although it explained the Klein grid, I don't recall it having test questions. I remember being disappointed at the time.

 

No, but I think those who lean towards gayness are more likely to identify as something other than straight, since they have more of a stake. Someone who has very occasional or fleeting thoughts would have an easier time shrugging them off, not to mention more to lose. If a gay person can spend their entire lives in denial, living as heterosexuals, imagine how much more pressure there would be for someone > Kinsey 3.

 

Also, this in left field, but I thought you might get a kick out of this...

I recall reading a book that was a compilation of first hand accounts of bisexual people and their stories. Maybe it was "bi any other name"? Anyhow, I remember reading an account of these two bisexual guys who were partners, and then decided to go find themselves a wife. And, as I recall, they found one. So they had this really cute m-f-m triad relationship going on.

And I remember thinking, "Wow, a situation like that really appeals to me!"
Which kinda shocked me at the time because I was just starting to come out to myself back then.

I don't know how you feel about poly relationships, but is that something that would appeal to you, as a beautiful, unique bi-homoflexible dude?

 

Thanks!
I see it doesn't have "questions" per say, but it's still cool.
:eusa_clap

 

I've always thought of bisexual men as gay leaning, but I'm almost convinced now that is an incorrect stereotype. My gay male friend kept telling me bi men are actually gay down deep, but just don't want to accept it.

 

Stereotypes are too limiting. If you met me you wouldn't think I was gay. I'm a Kinsey 5 though, not 6.

Whether I'm mostly gay, or just straight up gay; I'm still gay.

 

I just looked at that test. Is it that easy for people to know if they're sexually attracted to someone or not? That test is pretty useless for me.

 

I meant in the sense of narrative questions that are more subtle. Like you'd take for a personality inventory or something.

Because, for some people (like Sporn), attraction is not entirely self evident.

Still, I think its a useful tool. Thanks again. :icon_bigg

---------- Post added 28th Aug 2015 at 08:31 AM ----------

In case you were wondering, I did the Klein test, and depending on how I weighted different aspects of my past experiences and my expectations for the future, I came out to somewhere between 2.05 and 2.34.

 

Yup... Heterosexual leaning bisexual.
(although I have some other quirks, like being really attracted to some trans men that aren't even on this test.)

And yes, I've been told both that I'm gay in denial and straight in denial.

But, frankly, my lived experience is that I'm not happy living as just straight.
It feels like pretending. But when I'm openly queer, I feel much more comfortable.
If I'm with a woman, then to feel open, I need to use non gender specific terms of endearment, watch queer and gay porn together, engage in gender play in the bedroom, and go to lots of gay events together, and/or have mmf threesomes, etc. One could interpret that as "gay" in waiting, but honestly, being openly queer makes me feel that much more attracted to my lady.

If I was with a guy (which, admittedly, I've less experience with), I'd want an fwb relationship with a woman on the side, or mmf threesomes or watching a lot of straight porn together or something.

It's weird and poly, but I think its just how I am.

And, yes, I did ask my gay Kinsey 6 friend if he's ever fantasized about women. And it's a total, firm, and complete "No!", accompanied by a disgusted face.

So, yeah, I probably need to be dating other bi people to make this work. My current sweetheart is bisexual, and we really seem to get each other.