I feel like I've tried most things suggested to figure out my orientation. However, I'm still fantasizing about men and women, and I really am not sure which attraction is real. Considering I haven't laid off porn and masturbation since I discovered it around 6th grade, I feel like doing the NoFap program would be a good way to finally figure out what my true orientation is. From what I read, it says if you go 180 days without porn or masturbation, that your body will basically be screaming at you to pounce on whatever gender you prefer in public. Do you think there is any truth to this/it's a good indicator? I've also read that some people can get porn addiction to the point gay porn turns them on. I honestly wouldn't be shocked if that was my case, considering I've never laid off porn for more than a week in my life, and the categories of things I was into got very, very bizarre, things I wouldn't do in real life. I also read that who you are attracted to as a youth/the first porn you enjoy when you are younger is what your real orientation is, and that what you get into after that is escalation. Either way I'm going to try the 180 day challenge to see if I can get a clearer picture of what's going on with me. I guess I just want to see if anyone thinks this is a good method to figure out sexuality?
Absolutely not. Depriving yourself of sexual release for so long isn't really healthy, and as you said: you're more likely to have sex with ANYONE, regardless of gender/sex. Porn is just not an indicator of sexual orientation. You're better off figuring out who you view as attractive, and roll with it. To me, it sounds as if you bi, since you think about both men and women.
Yeah, before doing something that drastic, I'd at least do some things like take the Kinsey test or the Klein sexual orientation grid test. Also, keep in mind that if you are young, just relax and give yourself time. You don't have to have all the answers right now.
Thanks for the replies. I've taken both test. The Klein test said I was like a 1.5 or something like on the heterosexual side, and the kinsey test couldn't even give me an answer, which makes me feel like I'm some kind of weirdo :/ I don't think I'm too young though, however I am ok with taking the time to figure things out, which is why I want to take the time to try and refrain from masturbation, or at least porn. I honestly think I might be bi, but since I'm full of nervous energy, I can't help but think "men can't be bisexual, out sexuality is more rigid than women's, and if you try to date a girl you will end up being gay and wasting her life." So then I'll think "okay, let's date a guy." But then I think "you grew up straight, in fact you were a pervert back I'm the day, you'll just break some guy's heart down the road, which is no different than wasting a girl's life." I just don't know how to be sure. And I feel as if someone else's life is something not to chance if I'm not sure. ---------- Post added 28th Aug 2015 at 03:08 PM ---------- Is it really unhealthy though? It seems one side claims it's not healthy, the other side claims it leads to increased energy, motivation, testosterone, etc.
Well it is good for releasing tension, relaxing, and falling asleep. Since it relieves tension, making it easier to relax, I assume that would also make it easier and quicker for your body to recover, both physically and mentally. When you're in the mindset "men can't be bi" because of "nervous energy," that's probably a good indicator you don't need anymore tension in your body. Also: you won't ruin any woman's (or man's) life by breaking off with them. People date, find out how compatible they are, and almost always break off. Not all gay/bi men will have a lasting relationship, just like straight people.
I didn't know there was such a program but I did it once for almost a year and I still came back to guys, much to my horror and dismay.
This is a thing??? And onto your question. I think that the gay porn factlet is false. Porn is supposed to be arousing for most people, regardless of sexual orientation--I know some females who watch gay porn, but are only interested in dating men. Sexual preference should be based on what you would actually do (or, who you feel attracted to) in reality, not porn videos they may have about it. As for your 180 day trial, I don't think there's much truth to it. In the literal sense, plenty of people don't have sex until marriage--not everyone's a sexual animal, or loses the v-card before college. In the metaphorical sense, this might work, but the ordeal is taken to the extreme--it's not a good indicator of sexuality in the everyday-life sense. 180 days is a special scenario--does it mean you're "gay" after only 180 days of abstinence? Again, I think your sexual preference should be something you experience everyday. But this is just my opinion. Do what you think feels right--and if it's 180 days, go for it. If you think of yourself as bisexual, go with that too I hope this has helped a bit! :smilewave This is truly thoughtful. If you're worried about hurting someone, maybe you could explain your situation...? That you're curious?
