So hi guys. Let's start with the fact that i am a 16 years old boy . My problem is that im sexually confused. So im questioning myself if i am bisexual . So all my life .. all my 16 years till these bad days i was 10000% straight . I always liked girls , every girl could make my c*ck hard . I masturbated on photos , every porn made me cum in 2 mins . I trained football and when i was with naked guys i felt nothing .. i was 10000000% straight . My sex life is poor .. when i was 7 (jesus christ) i kissed with a girl and touched her and feel amazing . So where my life was going amazing i started using snapchat for sexting , i started with girls and everything was amazing . But then a guy added me and said he will suck my cock and i felt nice . After that my question started if im gay , bisexual and etc. It was 1000% depression and in the beginning i hardly masturbated to the hottest pornstars . I tried watching gay porn and it made me cum very very fast . I was frightened and couldn't understand why .. in my past i tried to watch gay porn and couldnt get my cock hard . While this is happening i dont feel attraction towards guys .. it's just the sex ... i still like girls . I continued with snapchat and was excited when a guy messages about my cock and etc. After time i felt the urge to watch huge cocks... i couldnt understand WHY ... when i see a sexy girl i feel amazing . i feel i belong with girls . when i think of a sex with a guy i feel disgusted . I have never had sex . I went to psychologist and she said that i was straight but the reason i havent done anything with a girl over 10 years is confusing me . I dont say i dont im bi cus of the society making everyone straight and that the gay people are not right and etc. Its because when i think of having sex with a guy i dont feel right to fuck a guy . I feel amazing and aroused when thinking of sex with a girl . But sometimes when i think of blowing a big cock i feel a little bit aroused and then suddenly not aroused .. sometimes im sure im straight sometimes i question .. when i think of a sex with a guy its something like a horror movie . But with the girl i feel amazing , i want that .. i love sexy chicks , chubby girls and etc. Is it my brain on porn cus i watched porn 5 times a day sometimes . Like i said i have never had sex with a girl and even go out with girls .. i am only with my male friends .. I have never felt anything or a crush to a man in my life . I love girls and yea sorry for being so long , but my question is long .. if you didnt understand anything please ask . Please guy help me . Everyone i talked said that im not gay but i need to ask you too .
There's no instant, easy answer. And before somebody else comes along with some unrecognized combination label, no I don't think you have romantic orientation to one gender and sexual attraction to another, because the current research and experience of professionals doesn't bear that out as a clinically recognized identity. So that means we have to look at what's going on. I see two likely possibilities. The first is that you aren't 100% straight and are opening up to same-sex feelings. It's actually not uncommon for people to deeply suppress arousal to the same sex until their late teens or later. When this happens, it's often accompanied by feelings of revulsion or disgust, driven by denial in your conscious mind, that happen after orgasm. And that also impacts your view of willingness to have sex with same-sex partners. (This is part of the reason that some people have claimed there's a difference between romantic and sexual orientation, but for the most part, at least according to those in the field who work with these populations, this is simply part of the denial process.) Now it is also possible, but less likely, that you are simply super horny and any sort of sexual stimuli will excite you. But this would be pretty unusual; most guys who are genuinely straight don't find any arousal to gay porn or thinking about gay sex. You describe having strong arousal to gay porn, and reaching orgasm faster watching gay porn than straight porn. This would tend to support the idea that you're opening up to same-sex attraction. And again, if this is correct, the disconnect between what your body feels, physically, in terms of arousal, and what your mind says ("Ew, that's gross, it's not anything I want to be anywhere near") is the conflict between the conscious mind (which still identifies as straight) and the unconscious (which is where the actual hardwired attraction is.) What I usually suggest is masturbating without porn for a week or two. Spend some sessions thinking only about guys, and other sessions thinking only about girls. And then some sessions thinking about nothing in particular... and see what images your mind comes up with if you don't put any conscious thought into it. If you spend time doing this, at the end of it, you should have a pretty clear picture of what arouses and excites you most. You might find that both guys and girls get you off, but one is much more arousing than the other. This could mean you're bisexual, or, if guys are more arousing, it could mean you're moving more toward same-sex attraction. The important think to know here is whatever you are attracted to... that's what you're attracted to. It doesn't change, it's pretty hardwired. So the key is simply opening your mind to whatever your attractions are and learning to accept that (assuming your attractions show that you aren't straight.) Feel free to post more about your experiences and, if you decide to try the above, to post after doing so if you want more input.
I am not aroused by guys ... i never thought about a guy that he is beautiful and etc. After that problem started i try to see if i get aroused by guys but i don't . I just don't feel aroused by guys . And im not in denial because when i think of a guy having sex with me im disgusted ... i dont like a dude with a penis riding me (jesus christ) . I think it's a depression because when those feelings started i became less excited by girls , but i wasnt excited by guys too . Day after day i started returning my excitement about girls .. i love girls and when i didnt have this depression i was falling in love with every second girl .. i dont think im in denial cus if i try to make sex with a boy i think i can puke . Its something like depression because sometimes i feel very very awful and cant do anything .. in the beginning i couldnt play video games . So seriously i dont know what is happening but i think if i was bisexual i would atleast for 4 months have feelings or thoughts about a guy on the streets .. i haven't . ---------- Post added 4th Sep 2015 at 08:30 PM ---------- Okay i will try not watching porn for about 2 weeks and masturbate .. im pretty sure i will get aroused by woman because i know myself . I will try this and be closer and closer to the reality . And the key to find your sexuality at 100% is to try . I will try masturbating without porn for 2 weeks and see my real sexual fantasies .
It seems like you were very affected by thinking of gay sex or the possibility of you liking guys. It even made you so depressed you couldn't play video games. So, it surely triggered a strong emotional response within you. If it were a straight guy thinking about this he probably would be disgusted/put off by it but then afterwards he would just move on with his life like normal - it wouldn't be a big deal. But if it triggers such a big emotional response within you, maybe there's a deeper issue that needs to be looked at? Maybe you dug up some internalized homophobia within you and it's making you depressed? I can also relate to how you're feeling because when I started realizing I liked girls I thought it didn't make much sense because I would easily feel "disgusted" by girls and the female form and I also never looked at girls in the streets, etc. This was all due to internalized homophobia and it took me a while to see through it.
Umm i dont know if it is homophobia .. i mean if im not straight i would be bisexual 10000% cause i had girlfriends and i loved it I mean i love girls , boobs , vagina and etc. But it's something hitting me with the boys "thing".. so im bisexual if im not straight for sure . But its so strange . I feel very very relieved .. i dont think about it anymore I am grossed when thinking of me putting my c*ck into a man's ass .. i mean that's not me .. i know you would think that i am in denial and it's normal .. maybe because in the gay porn there is a man with a beard .. everything in a man a he start sucking a dick .. i feel so fcking weird that maybe the anxiety makes myself to watch it .. im confident and i believe in myself im sure i will have girlfriends and etc. cus i like girls 10000% and straight porn .. but i will see what happens with the gay things and if i am bisexual
