Okay, I've almost concluded that I am not gay but there's still a little bit of me which just holds me back from moving on. I think I'm straight because hugging/kissing even just being more than friends with girls is just so right and I like it a lot. Being around girls just gives me a completely different feeling compared to men. If I were to hug a man it would do nothing for me; it's just like hugging a family member. Nothing sexual at all. But the thing which I obsess over is that sometimes gay porn/animations arouse me a lot. There's no attraction to the men, it's something different. My question is, does porn ACTUALLY have little relevance to sexual orientation? I just can't seem to get my head round this. It just makes such little sense to me. It's just so frustrating knowing that I like females and don't like males but the odd time gay porn arouses me just makes me think that there must be something there. Any opinions on this would be great. Thank you.
Porn does not determine what you sexuality is. Like some gay guys could like watching lesbian porn but are not straight or bisexual.
Porn is a notoriously bad indicator. If you have no attractions to men except for in porn, you are likely straight.
I don't even think I have any attraction to them in porn. When I think about it and/or watch I get really nervous and my heart rate increases so much. It's as if I like it because it's seen as wrong by a lot of people. I never had any urge to watch gay porn when I was younger. Never even saw men as anything I'd like to do sexual things with.
Yes, as said above, the type of porn you watch or enjoy watching does not reflect your orientation. Sometimes, it is the taboo aspect of the porn that makes it arousing. The nervousness and heart rate that you mention could be because of that. If you don't have any attractions to guys in real life whatsoever, then you most probably are straight. If it still cause you problems, try laying off the gay porn and see how you feel in your day to day life Hope you feel better!
I don't even watch it frequently. It's just when i check to see whether or not I get aroused by it. I'm so obsessed lol.
I don't think porn enjoyment is much of an indicator. I find lesbian porn kind of boring, but I like women in real life.
I think with that bolded statement you kind of answer your own question on this. I think that yes, porn could have something to do with your orientation IF you were looking at it and thinking "DAMN, I wanna be involved in that!". However, you said it yourself. It's not the guys that are attracting you to the gay porn, it's something else. So if it's not the guys that you think are making you attracted to the gay porn, why would it be indicative of anything much (at least with regards to what gender you go for). I think it's more about why you're watching the porn, and you seem to know the answer to that already. Here's another perspective. Maybe you aren't entirely straight. Maybe there's that tiny bit of attraction to men in you, whether it's 1%, 5% or 10% - whatever. But why should that matter, when your feelings for women are so much more important, so much more valuable to you, that that's all you want to go for? Why should you let a little fraction of your attractions get in the way of the part of your attractions you truly want? You know you like girls, so go for them. Maybe one day you'll meet a guy who shifts your thinking, but at the end of the day every part of our thinking will shift at some point - it's part of life and it's simply being receptive to what new experiences tell us. For now though, you like girls and you want to go for girls, so if that's what you want to do, there's no reason you shouldn't just because some obscure part of your sexuality has a thing for guys.
If anything I watch straight porn more than gay porn. That doesn't make me bisexual, but it does say something but my sexual orientation (I'm a Kinsey 5). But I do like watching women having sex as well as guys of course. I just want to slip myself in the male actor's shoes and experience heaven.
I am probably going to say your mostly to completely heterosexual. You would probably be between a 0 and 1 on the Kinsey Scale. It is up to you however what you decide on. If you like women then stay with women.
I've felt this exact way before for a while. Any attraction to men does not manifest in real life. And I too don't see how I fit into the occasional gay porn that gives me an intense, heart pounding arousal. I know what you mean by enjoying it cud it seemed wrong. To get that kind of arousal, it almost has to be. It's like fear mixed with arousal and it's very intense
So... toss aside the porn for a moment. Spend the next few days masturbating without porn. Think about guys in one session, and girls in the next. See which of the two is more arousing to you. (How you feel after ejaculation and orgasm isn't reallly relevant here; what's important is how aroused you feel in the moment, while masturbating and before orgasm.) Respond back and share your experiences doing that (if you're comfortable doing so) and that will help you (and us) to have a better understanding of where your orientation lies.
I agree with Chip. He always gives the best answers. Implore you read my posts and wuestions. I have ocd an I got obsess with my sexual orientation. Long story short I tried masturbating to gay porn to test. Normally nothing happened unless I pushed myself really hard and I was already turned on by the porn I do like. The. I used vibrators which I learned no matter what I looked I orgasmed and I thought me climaxing to gay porn while touching myself meant something. What chip said rang a really strong bell to me. I didn't enjoy touching myself to men. But when I touch myself to women it was heaven and it felt enjoyable. Also the orgasm was different, I still felt the same afterwards. Nothing changed for me. And so I stop and slowly coming out if the obsession and enjoying life again. Remember, understanding and noticing that other men are attractive doesn't mean you are attracted to them. That's something I couldn't wrap my head around for a while.
