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I'm a Lesbian....But attracted to men??

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by JustLikeNoOne, Sep 10, 2015.

  1. JustLikeNoOne

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    Hey people....

    Short story?

    - I'm 22
    - Fully confirmed and proofed as a lesbian since I was 12
    - Have been watching gay porn (man on man) since about the same time....
    - Have no desire to sleep with any man, kiss any man, hold hands and play on the swings with any man etc.
    - Am currently in a long term relationship with an amazing woman who pushes all my buttons in more or less the right order.

    Long story?

    I have an extremely high sex drive. I require stimulation at least once a day. To do that I watch porn and I'm always drawn to the same damn thing. Men, anal/solo or mutual masturbation. I've never enjoyed lesbian porn, it's always so plastic and fake and to be fair you can never really tell if the girl even enjoys what she's doing. On top of that it's clearly tailored to raise the blood in the Y-chromosome. My own personal theory is that I watch gay porn because its real, rough and there is NO ambiguity. He cums, he enjoyed it.

    I have no desire to have sex, be touched or have a relationship with a man, but I find a few attractive (in a different way to women) but have not been turned on by a man in the flesh... With women it's different, their sensuality, curves, the sound of a womans voice... It's intense, I'm turned on to my core. But I like muscles on a man too?

    I guess what I'm asking is, do any of you have an idea about my sexuality?
     
  2. bubbles123

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    I'm still questioning myself, so maybe I'm not the best source of advice on this matter.
    But anyway, I think you're still basically gay with some attraction to men, perhaps a 6 on the Kinsey scale I guess you could say.
    I know porn habits don't really have much baring on your orientation anyway. A lot of people prefer porn that doesn't "align with" their orientation.
    I'm sort of similar in that I think I find guys attractive/cute sometimes (and porn with guys in it) but the thought of having a relationship with a guy or being physical with a guy isn't that appealing to me. I'm still trying to figure out the whole attraction to girls part personally but if I find that I do want to date/be with girls in the future, I think I'd probably still call myself gay because my attraction to girls would be the only one that means more than just attraction. Attraction to a girl has potential, whereas with guys I know it wouldn't lead to anything so that doesn't really concern people.
    Anyway hope this helped!
     
  3. XenaxGabby

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    The type of porn you watch doesn't always reflect your sexuality. Images of people having sex, regardless of gender are stimulating. It's just how are our brains are wired.
     
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    Times 3 on this feeling that you are both (JustLikeNoOne and bubbles) describing. I much prefer girl-on-girl porn but my waking fantasies are almost exclusively about men. There are very few women who compel desire from me. There is the occasional woman that provokes lust within me but mostly my thoughts, feelings, emotions, and sexual desire are towards other guys. I mostly imagine having sex and intimacy and sensuality and love with men.

    I guess it's just one of those weird evolutionary kinks that seem rather useless but do a great job of messing with our minds. I think it's just something that needs to be acknowledged, even embraced, but that which has no real link to what our basic desires are.

    Basically I have NFI :lol:
     
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  5. 101DeadRoses

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    You're a lesbian. To be honest, I don't really want to be DP'd by an alien octopus from hell...
    But I enjoy tentacle hentai.

    That is similar to your situation.

    Porn is not at all indicative of your sexuality. Instead, how you feel in the same room with someone IS indicative of your sexuality.
    Porn is an outlet for FEELINGS of sexual desire, acting more as a catalyst to pleasure than anything else.
    You ARE a lesbian. You just enjoy non-lesbian porn.

    And there is nothing wrong with that.
     
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