Okay, I am just letting you know that I am in fact a virgin. I have never had a boyfriend or girlfriend or have never been kissed and I am 21. Sometimes I would have these thoughts sometimes about you know sex. I mean, everyone have these kind of thoughts right? So I know that it's normal I guess. However, sometimes though, when I do actually think about sex and the actual thought of doing it whether if it's with a guy or girl sometimes it would make me feel uncomfortable sometimes. I have no idea as to why that is sometimes. I mean, maybe because the reason why sometimes it makes me uncomfortable of actually doing it is because I am inexperienced in that section and that maybe when I do find the right person (guy or girl) that those feelings of uncomfortbleness will go away. Sometimes I would think that maybe it's because I might be Asexual but that doesn't really make any sense to me because I do sometimes enjoy reading fanfiction that would have sex scenes in it and I do sometimes have thought what would it be like to have sex with a guy or a girl sometimes. I just I don't know, I just want to know why it makes me feel uncomfortable sometimes to actually doing it when it happens. Like, I do not want to do it with a random person that's for sure. I want it to happen with someone who I love and who I can see a future with. I just don't know why I would have thoughts like this sometimes. Any advice please?:help:
Wow, thank you guys so much for your advice. I'm actually do want advice but I always get barely any response from people on here. I thought this place was suppose to be for people who are confused about themselves and that there will always be someone out there to give you advice? Huh, guess not. I always barely get replies on here and it's making me mad now
Hey, QuietStarlight. Give us a chance. It hadn't been that long, and we're not all in the same time zone. Anyway, I'm glad I found your post, since I can relate to it. Not anymore, but in the past, yes, I felt uncomfortable actually imagining myself having sex with someone. Erotic fiction was fine and exciting, but picturing myself doing those things made me highly uncomfortable and didn't turn me on. For me, these feelings faded as I grew older, and disappeared completely when I met someone I could definitely see myself having sex with. Of course this is my personal experience, and yours might vary. There is such a thing as being "ready" for sex. I think part of it might be that sex is in our society a private, almost shameful thing. Some people even feel ashamed when masturbating. Maybe a part of you has integrated that, or maybe because it's something unknown, you're just not comfortable yet. I would discourage you from concluding that you are asexual based solely on your occasional discomfort around imagining yourself in sexual situations. If you are attracted to people, I wouldn't call that asexual. Attracted doesn't have to mean "I want to jump her bones now." Don't get mad at the internet, it's a waste of your time and energy.
Lyana took the words out of my mouth. When you haven't experienced something, it can sometimes seem strange. Every now and then I feel like you do but then I realize that I really do want to be intimate with someone I care about, someday. P.S. Give people a day or two to respond. There are a lot of threads!
Yehp. That's very common for men and women, gay, straight, bi etc, it's just because of the rollercoaster ride of hormonal levels we each have during the day. I usually go through a period of 2-4 days each month where I have no sexual interest in anything, and many other people do too.
