Is it possible that I'm bi-curious (lesbian but sometimes I kiss guys)

I've come to terms with the fact that I'm gay for a while now, but sometimes (when I'm REALLY drunk) I might randomly kiss guys, if there are no girls available around. This happens usually when I go to the club with my friends and, since the places where we go lack of lgbt people, if I'm very drunk I might end up kissing guys. That's the furthest I can get with a guy though, because I'm not sexually attracted to them. Does it mean that I'm a lesbian but occasionally bi-curious?

 

i wouldnt worry to much about labeling urself. If you are not sexually attracted to men then i would be less likely to say you are bi

 

Sexual actions/conduct don't necessarily equal sexual orientation. If you kiss men when drunk but feel no sexual attraction to them you're probably lesbian, not bisexual.

 

I'm starting to think that I might be homoflexible, because I don't mind kissing guys. I mean, between a guy and a girl I would choose a girl with no hesitation, but in some circumstances (and with the right amount of alcohol) I might kiss a guy. But still, I wouldn't go any further than kissing. Would you say that I'm gay or homoflexible?

 

You could say homoflexible if you think that matches your desires and attractions better, after all, your label is just there to reflect you.

Is there a desire to kiss guys or is it just something that's sort of fun to do and something that occasionally happens at parties/bars? There's a difference between not minding something and actually wanting it/being attracted to those men. If you wouldn't want to do anything sexual with those men and you don't feel general sexual attraction towards them you could say you're gay.

 

Let's say that, for example last night, I was really drunk and I really wanted to make out with somebody, and since there weren't any gay/bi girls I made out with a guy.

 

Hmm did you feel any attraction to any of the guys there? I mean you said you just wanted to make out with someone, but since there were no non-straight girls there you just made out with a guy, not because you felt any attraction to him but because you just wanted to do that certain act. If that's the case I'd say you're gay (if you solely feel attraction to girls), but you can label yourself as homoflexible if you want to, if you want it to reflect situations like you just described. You don't feel any attraction to guys but you'd still go for it if you felt like it just for the act itself. I personally think orientation labels reflect sexual and romantic attraction, and if you feel neither of those things towards guys, even if you do occasionally make out with them just to make out with someone and because there are no available girls around, you're probably gay. But sometimes labels can be used when also considering other aspects, so it really depends.
Honestly I'm not too sure, but I hope you find a label that works for you and good luck!

 

Thanks a lot