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Lesbian but starting to question again...

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by A Random Person, Sep 22, 2015.

  1. A Random Person

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    So, I'm out as lesbian (have been for a while) But now I'm starting to feel a little confused and starting to question again.

    Sometimes I will look at a man and think he's either nice looking or even sometimes I'll think they're hot. Depending on my mood if I look at nude pictures (of men) I will get aroused while other times I won't get aroused at all.

    While looking at porn either solo men or gay etc I can masturbate to it again depending on my mood.

    Even with that, I don't want to be in a relationship with a male let alone have sex with one.

    I am just very confused on what this makes me. Could anyone shed light?
     
  2. fxngirl

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    You said you still don't wanna have sex with men, so I guess this means your attraction to them is only beauty appreciation. What about emotionally speaking? Would you see yourself falling in love with a guy?
     
  3. A Random Person

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    Never. I would like them as a friend but never love them.
     
  4. fxngirl

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    Then if you're not sexually nor romantically attracted to guys, I think there's nothing to question about :wink:
     
  5. Lunarchy

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    I went through this exact same thing, for the longest time I thought I was bisexual, but the more I kept an open mind, the more I realized that I always chose girls over guys. I can recognize guys as attractive, but when I compare it to what I feel for girl's it's barely worth mentioning. My advice? Don't worry about the label, what ever happens is going to happen. If tomorrow you find yourself sexually attracted to and in love with a guy, than go for it, if that never happens it never happens. Sexual orientation is something you gotta follow your heart (and occasionally genitals ^)^ ) on, and not your head.

    You are going to love who you are going to love, base your orientation on that, not the other way around!
     
    #5 Lunarchy, Sep 23, 2015
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  6. fxngirl

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    Exactly as Lunarchy said :slight_smile: if it happens, it happens. What matters is that it makes you happy!
     
  7. A Random Person

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    Thank you all for your support. It has put my mind at ease :slight_smile: