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What is my sexual orientation?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Robben202, Sep 28, 2015.

  1. Robben202

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    I always was attracted and loved only women,6 monthes i had a really stupid and weird thought about a guy(wasn't even sexual)then i started to question my sexuality,i'll check any guy i see and ask myself if i'm attracted to him but i just don't know.i don't want to be with guys,i never liked any guy.:icon_sad:
    I started checking gay porn to see if it does something to me,most of the time it's not arousing to me.i'll masturbate on it for minutes and i can't even get it up,then i'll watch a women and i'll get an erection.
    But today i checked on gay porn and i could get it up and even cum.i feel like crap right now,am i bisexual?:icon_sad:
    Can a straight guy orgasm if he tried hard on gay porn?later i checked on lesbien porn and the orgasm was better but i don't know..i'm really confused right now i think about it all day

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    Please can someone help
    I also liked to say that i never fantasized about the same sex or wanted to,i just want this doubt to go away
     
  2. YinYang

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    Orgasms aren't a good indicator of sexuality, so you shouldn't pay attention to whether or not you can be aroused by gay porn. Have you ever thought about doing something sexual with another guy or dating a guy?
     
  3. Robben202

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    Actually i did but only for checking to see if i like it or not.what i can tell you is that i definitely don't want to date a guy
     
  4. YinYang

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    Then I'm pretty sure you're not gay. If you can't see yourself dating or having sex with a guy, then you aren't gay.
     
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    then how come i feel like crap?why when i read comments like this i feel good for couple of minutes then the bad feeling come back i just don't know what's going on anymore,i'm just stuck in this circle-asking people if i'm gay if i read comments that's say i'm not i feel relied for minutes or hours then i feel like crap again and i have to ask that question or to check for arousal.what the hell is going on?:icon_sad:
     
  6. Yosia

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    Porn is never a good indicator of your sexuality, because it is perfectly natural to be aroused by sexual activities you don't even enjoy. Fantasies can sometimes be a good indicator though, depending on the regularity of them.

    Ask yourself 3 questions:
    - Do I feel the urge to have sex with someone of the same sex?
    - Would I want to engage in a relationship with someone of the same sex?
    - Do I feel anything if I fantasize about someone of the same sex?

    Ask yourself these fairly regularly and honestly to see if your answers change.

    From your post, I personally believe that you are heterosexual, but only you can label yourself for certain. Take your time and understand that there is nothing wrong with being any sexuality, it is perfectly natural.

    Best of wishes.