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Is it weird to always change your sexuality label, throughout the day?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by metalchick, Sep 29, 2015.

  1. metalchick

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    It's weird and unsettling...

    Sometimes I feel bisexual, because I'm capable of loving either gender..i find guys nicer to look at visually than girls

    but when I look at girls I think "wow, id really like to get to know her", and want to get close to her right away, and eventually fall for her


    I can love some guys, and sometimes calling myself bi, with a preference to girls, seems to explain everything

    sometimes it seems like the right label, because I don't have to feel guilty or confused if a guy turns my head, as well


    but then I hear a girl, identify as gay, and some girls I know are gay's stories seem similar to mine

    sometimes I want to be gay, because it takes the pressure off of me, having to date guys as well, or worry I'll spend the rest of my life with the gender I don't like as much

    I feel like I really want to be part of the gay community, at times of the day it seems right, especially when I see all the commercials of girls being so sexually attracted to guys, I've never had that feeling at all, I do about girls all the time, just by fantasizing


    but then I know I feel guilty if I have a crush on a guy, because I got my label wrong again...and sometimes I feel like I can't look at my guy crushes again, the same way (celeb guy crushes)

    I love those celeb crush men, to the point where im like in love with them, it replaces the need for a relationship in my life


    I don't know, it's pretty frustrating sometimes I think I'm bi, with a preference, and sometimes I think I'm gay.

    both labels seem wrong and right at same time, im right on that fence
     
  2. Scifiguy338

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    I kinda feel the same way. I just go with either, depending on the situation. I don't feel like they are mutually exclusive, you can identify with both. There's a lot of gay people who have similar feelings, and a lot of bi people with those feelings, yet they use different labels. I totally understand your situation. And I have identified as queer to avoid this gay vs bi confusion.
    I'd say go with whatever feels right at the time, I think most people would get it.