Any gay men who have fascination with women?

Interesting.

Well I can definitely tell if a girl is good looking. But I don't have any wish to be with her. And honestly never have thought of any random girl for more than a few moment or two.

I suppose if you were interested you were someone who was interested in how people dress, interact with the world, or simply carry themselve and wanted to think about how or why they did that, perhaps?

I suppose the real important question here is do you see yourself sexually and/or romantically with that person?

 

This rarely happens but I've had crushes on girls who I've become fixated on. I don't think about having sex with them but I do get butterflies and have romantic thoughts like kissing them or going on a date. It could be that I'm demisexual, I guess that's something I'm not sure yet.

 

Me! I'm most likely gay, quite possibly (some form of bisexual) definitely not straight. Definitely confused. One thing is for sure - I have a constant attraction to females. Everywhere I go I notice them and lust after them. In the bedroom - I don't think anything would 'work' with a female.

 

I bear no sexual or emotional attraction to those of the opposite gender. However, I do appreciate the beauty of women, I love the shape to be exact. My 'fascination' with women purely stems from an artistic perspective; I prefer drawing female figures as I find the flowing curves very aesthetically pleasing.

Plus, badass female characters are way cooler than male badasses. Just sayin'.

 

Technically I'm bisexual and 5 on the Kinsey scale. I identify as gay.

Unfortunately before I came out to myself I was able to feed my denial and make myself feel straight by focusing on the subset of women I found attractive. I have a girlfriend, I must be straight. Deep down you know if you are gay. The hard part is getting past the pressure to be normal and finding the courage to come out.

 

I'm bisexual, but roughly a 2 to 2.5 on the Kinsey scale.
My experience is that I tried to live as gay for a while, but my urges for women were stronger, more frequent, and more involuntary than for men... (kind of the mirror image of what you describe).
.... So, yeah, if I'm not straight - then you most definitely aren't.

From what you're saying, it sounds like you're at least a 4 on the Kinsey scale (gay leaning bisexual) and quite possibly a 5 (mostly gay) on the Kinsey scale...

Either way, sooner or later, you'll need to come out as something other than straight.

To put it another way, even if you're bisexual, you'll still need to come out.

So, you might as well go ahead and embrace your same sex attractions and start figuring out how to act on them in a healthy way.
Then either your opposite sex attractions will evaporate - as SiennaFire has reported they did for him - or they will persist - as they did for me.

 

I tend to do the opposite. I think more about females at home and will look at some and masturbate and get off. Then I will think about men after I get off to a female.Then when i get off to men I will think about a woman after that. Some females out in public I have gotten butterflies in my stomach and lusted after some women in public. I identify as bisexual though I feel more like I would be gay because of my involuntary turn ons from men out in public.

 

Nope. I can admire a woman if I think she's beautiful and classy and strong and intelligent and I can enjoy talking to her and getting to know her and sharing things about myself with a woman in conversation, but I've never had a woman on my mind in the way I become fascinated by a man and can't stop thinking about him. with an attractive man I feel the urge to get closer to him and become physically involved and I may even lay awake all night thinking about him and fantasizing about him, but a woman has never had that effect on me.

 

While you can try and convince yourself that you are straight through these forced maneuvers, it sounds like from what you've written that you have a stronger attraction to guys. I suspect that at some level you know that you are gay. Have you ever been with a guy? Have you taken Chip's masturbation challenge?

By sharing my experience I was hoping that you might avoid that path of trying to convince yourself that you are straight and deny your sexuality. Why do you continue to resist?

 

I still like walking past a woman with nice boobs, (ie in summer time!)
and enjoy their beauty.. but vaginas scare me so much even though have had sex with women yonks ago..
not sure if I'd still get an erection with women or not...

dunno.


I'm very confused

 

I prefer female friends over male ones.

 

It's perfectly normal and reasonable for a gay man to recognise beauty in the opposite sex -- we don't need to deny that a member of the opposite sex might be attractive to be gay and we shouldn't be silly about it and say that women are totally repellent to us. Making bold statements like that doesn't enhance our sexuality one bit. There are very few absolutes in this life and there is no reason why we should think that our sexuality must be 100% geared towards men to be gay.

The word fascination normally means attraction or delight in something or someone and that's a whole different ball game to a passing glance at or recognition of a pretty woman (by a gay man). If the original poster has deeper feelings of attraction towards women and can imagine enjoying an intimate relationship with a woman, it is more likely to indicate bisexuality.

 

I've seen contradictory data points on whether you are bisexual or gay (e.g., your attraction to women is forced yet you fantasize more about girls without porn). What is clear is that you are not straight and seem to have internalized homophobia that's preventing you from acting on your attraction to guys. Instead of trying to analyze your orientation, perhaps you should try identifying as bisexual and understand the internalized homophobia that prevents you from hooking up with a guy. You can come out once you have clarity or you could come out as "not straight" if you'd prefer.

As you gain experience, you'll figure out if you have preference for gals, guys, or equal preference for both.

 

Interesting that you mention your attractions to women, I am the same.

I identify as gay (Kinsey 4-5) but technically qualify for bisexual. Sometimes the gay label feels invalid to me because of the attractions I have for women. My attractions for men are without a doubt stronger than women, but when other guys say they can appreciate a woman's looks, I fail to see what the mean by that.

I cannot stop wondering what going inside a woman feels like; tight, wet, warm: sounds pretty good to me.

In any case, I certainly do have a preference for guys (in the bedroom at least), I just don't know what to do for my attractions to women.

 

I must admit, the feeling of going inside a vagina was nice. probably easier than going inside a guy .. still prefer a guy.. but if I ever got the chance to experience a woman's vagina again, I'd say yes..