Am I forcing it?

I got the sense you had a real crush on this girl and are bisexual after reading and contributing to the thread http://emptyclosets.com/forum/sexual-romantic-orientation/191866-friendship-crush.html It's too bad you weren't able to ask her out on a date to find out for sure.

As someone who overanalyzes, your best approach is to experience how you feel when you are with guys or gals as a guide to help clarify your orientation (rather than analyzing and thinking about it). Now that you have your license, you can take gals out on dates and also go to the LGBT center/meetups to meet guys.

Good luck and keep us posted.

 

Maybe you should come out to yourself as bisexual and update your EC orientation. Once you start dating, you'll have a better sense whether you prefer girls or guys.

Congrats on getting the learners permit.

 

Congrats on coming out to yourself and EC as bisexual. Doesn't it feel great?

 

There's a difference between assuming you are bisexual and coming out as bisexual. In time you will feel comfortable enough to come out to your friends and family.

Any new crushes, guys or gals?

 

I get what you mean. You're one of the first people I've seen write a thread about it. When I was first questioning, I would wonder if I was unconsciously pushing myself to like girls, maybe because I wanted some solution and the more I thought about it, the less I could piece it together. It was so stressful on me that it messed up my performance in school somehow. But I read your 2 threads and it does seem like your bi. If you're feeling things like you did with that girl, you're proving to yourself that you can like females. Word of advice though, I realized I made it much harder for myself while I was questioning by telling more people than I needed to that I was bi. Its good to have people to confide in, but when too many people know, it increases the stress of obligation to figure out your feels

 

It's great to hear that you are accepting your sexuality!

(!!)(!):thewave!)(!!)

 

When you are ready to come out to others, I'm sure they will believe you. If they don't believe you, it's because they want you to be straight. You've found the strength to be you, so you won't be swayed. You may need to disclose parts of yourself that have been private up until now as part of the discussions.

My view is that labels are important because they give us permission and guidance on how to behave. When you identified as straight, you dismissed your feelings towards guys because you were straight. Now that you identify as bisexual, you will embrace your feelings when you feel something for a guy.

 

I can relate to this.

 

I'm bi too and have crushes on both girls and boys. But with guys it's more of a "oh, he's cute" type of crush while with girls it's typically "aw I wish we could date". I've had a crush on the same girl for 4 years now, pretty sure she'd be repulsed if she knew I was bi.

 

I agree with this completely and I was just talking about this with one of my best friends. Labels should not be used to restrict and categorize but a lot of people can process information better when there is a term they can put to what they are experiencing. When they don't fit anymore or are insufficient, these labels should be discarded as easily as shedding a piece of clothing but until then they can be useful tools.

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It's the opposite for me. :lol: With women, I have a profound appreciation for how they look and I just crush on them. I can't see myself in a relationship with a woman. With men, there is much more of a sexual attraction and I want to date them.