Late twenties male here. Virgin. No relationships. Since I had sexual feelings I've always had crushes on girls/women but my fantasies were always about submission and feminization and bi/gay sex. I am attracted to women as well as super feminine men, crossdressers and trans women but the porn I watch generally features female domination, feminization, cuckolding, humiliation and sex with men (within the context of humiliation). I present as straight but I privately consider myself situationally bi. Not even all-the-way bi because my "bi" side seems to be limited to fetishes. Does that seem right? Am I right to try and date women?
You're free to do whatever feels right to you, so don't stress it. It sounds like there are attractions to both men and women, but more so towards women. Just don't use porn as a method of stimulus for sexuality. Porn is fantasy. What happens in porn may not align with what you are attracted to in reality. In my case, I watch gay and straight porn, but even in straight porn I pay attention to the guy(s) more. It does say something about my Kinsey 5, but nonetheless I feel that the gay label fits me the best. Probably would be best not to label things right now, and just take it as it is.
I think its fine to try to date women, but I think you'd do yourself a favor to try to date women who are into the same types of kink you are. It will narrow your dating pool somewhat, but you'll likely be happier in the resulting relationships. As for labels, I might err on the side of labeling yourself, at least privately, queer with a preference for women, because it sounds like you might be open to dating people who are something other than straight women. Or do I have that wrong? Would you serious consider dating another man if he was very feminine? Alternately, you could identify as heteroflexible and kinky. That might be simpler and more straight forward.
Yeah, I think I'd date a really feminine guy if I could get through the "coming out" stuff. Are you referring here to sexually dominant women? I'm not very knowledgeable on kink but I kind of get the impression that dominant women are sort of like unicorns.
Yes, I'm suggesting that you try to date sexually dominant women, and women who are into the same fetishes you wrote about in earlier posts: Feminization, male submission, cuckolding, etc. It is true that dominant women are less common, but they are also not as rare as unicorns.... Lol There are several online dating sites that cater to people interested in these types of fetishes, and I think you'll be pleasantly surprised by the number of women who are interested in and/or open to these types of fetishes.
