Extremely confused. Help?

I've identified as being in the LGBTQ+ community for over a year now, but I've never identified as anything, I just told people that I have no label because that's what I'm comfortable with. From research though I know that if I had to label myself I would be pansexual. But, not I'm starting to think I'm also grey-asexual. I need advice, I'm so confused. This is the story.

I accepted that I was not straight over a year ago when my best friend (both female) and I started having a thing and I developed feelings for her. I always knew that I wasn't straight, but I never fully accepted it and was okay with telling people until then. Now I don't care, I'll tell anyone that asks because it's who I am. But, if she tried to go further then making out I would stop her, I wasn't comfortable with it. Now I have a boyfriend and he's also tried to go further then just making out and I don't want to. For a long time I thought it was just because I'm a virgin and am just not ready (which honestly im not) but it's more then that, I know it is. Sex doesn't repulse me and I can be turned on (I've masturbated before), but I don't see myself having sex with anyone nor do I want to. I'm attracted to people, to my boyfriend, but I'm not attracted to them to the point that I want to have sex with them. I want cuddles, and hand holding, and kissing, and hugging, and being together, but I don't want to sleep together. So I started researching asexual, demisexual, and grey-aseuxal and I think I'm grey-asexual but I don't know and I don't know how to know. I don't want to start labeling myself and to come out to people if that's not what I am. Also, I learned that there is a difference between pansexual and panromantic. So am I not grey-sexual at all, am I just panromantic? There's so much terminology and I just want to know who I am. Can you be a grey-asexual pansexual or grey-asexual panromantic? Because honestly, I see sex as a way to reproduce, when I want kids and am married I think that I will have sex, but underany other circumstances I don't know I just don't want it. It doesn't appeal to me. Does that make sense? If it doens't I'll try to explain what I'm feeling in a better way. Thank you lovely humans.