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Lesbian having dreams about sex with men ???

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Peanutcracker, Oct 23, 2015.

  1. Peanutcracker

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    I have identified as a lesbian for the past eight years now. I have been in a handful of committed relationships with women (all separate – I’m monogamous) over the course of the past eight years. Between relationships I have had very brief flirtatious/sexual encounters with men, but ultimately, those encounters were unfulfilling on a compatibility level (they confirmed that I was DEFINITELY gay).

    I am currently in a relationship with a wonderful lady, who is just an overall incredible person. The one part that has been getting me REALLY down though is that I can’t orgasm when having sex (I never have been able to orgasm with any partner). I can only orgasm while watching gay male porn and/or with a vibrator. I think this has been making me feel very insecure sexually--especially when having sex with my girlfriend--because I would love more than anything to be able to have an orgasm because of her. She’s great in bed, it has nothing to do with her skills; I just can’t orgasm. Maybe I have issues being vulnerable, but the issue makes me feel broken. On top of those arising sexual insecurities, I have been having more frequent dreams about having sex with men (part of me is attracted to the idea of a penis, but wouldn’t want to be with a man in real life). I wake up from these dreams turned on physically; however, these dreams make me very confused, sick to my stomach, and insecure about my sexuality.

    What’s going on with me??
     
  2. Endymion

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    Hi there!

    Granted, none of us know you any better than yourself! So i'm just going to see if I can help somewhat...

    Is it possible for example that this may be purely down to the sexual department. Not in terms of your satisifcation rate, but in terms of desire?

    It's very common (heard about this before and in no doubt, everyone else will see this too) but you can be a sexual bisexual, and a romantic lesbian.

    In other words - your life, will always be about being with a women, but sexually - you may be connected to both sexes.

    Further to this, do you use any sort of 'male' toys during your love life with your partner?

    Not trying to make this conversation sexual, but just trying to help! ha.