Do you find women's body attractive before you notice that you're gay?

I think most of my life I've found women/girls attractive, but at first I didn't realize HOW I found them attractive: like, more than just pretty. And the first time I stumbled upon lesbian porn, I honestly did like it. I watched porn every once in a while, then started watching just gay porn.

 

I denied I was gay until this year at age 42 - I wouldn't recommend it takes anyone else that long !
I used to think the same 'how can anyone not know ' well the point for me was I did know but I denied it -
My first experience was with a girl and then I slept with 4 women in my adulthood ( although all drunk ) I denied my sexuality so much that I even told myself I wasn't bi sexual it was all just fantasy ' what ever that meant ??

I would always watch lesbian porn and when I watched straight porn it was the women I was watching --
I felt a lot of shame and guilt after watching it - I never eyed women up
In the street

I'd say if u are exploring just allow yourself to explore - not sure of your sexuality ? You will be in time - time will provide you the answers ....
My advice is not to go into shame about what you are finding enjoyable - because that shame can lead to feeling bad about yourself - and whatever gender someone is enjoying is fine unless we tell ourselves otherwise

 

Yes...

I was always into women aesthetically more than men. I didn't realize it as a clue, but it was! I could rarely think of any male celebrities I was sexually into, but I did develop crushes on boys/men in real life. I would just fixate on girls and didn't think much of it until now.

 

I consider women's bodies beautiful and I can be aroused by them occasionally but as a gay man, I find men more sexually attractive. There are some gay men though who don't get turned on by women at all. In that case, I might be bisexual. I don't know all the labels. Hahaha

Relationship-wise, I've only thought about being with another man. I don't know how to explain but I don't see myself being in a relationship with a woman.

Sex is physical and emotional and the physical aspect of it means that a man or woman will respond to stimuli. A gay man is still a man. If you stimulate him long enough, he will get sexually aroused but I don't think a gay man who is really not into women would take it that far.

 

I think I started to wonder a little bit sometimes when I would choose and watch porn based on whether the woman in the video was attractive, and what she sounded like. The guy literally had no bearing on whether I enjoyed the video (in fact, if the guy made any noises at all, I was instantly turned off). I always looked at women but I thought everyone did that. As I said in another post, I couldn't even fathom the idea that I was anything but straight and "normal". I used to be afraid sometimes when I thought...what if I'm gay? But I always pushed it out of my head without thinking about it much.

 

I'm slightly attracted to females, still call myself gay because it's easier.

 

I knew I liked girls from the age of seven so I didn't experience 'adult' sexual attraction nor did I know about labels for sexual attraction. This was mainly done in retrospect though looking at the fact I found it weird to 'propose' to a boy, but asked two girls if I could hold their hands.

 

This. Yup.

Also always looked at girls, but not in a jealousy way. Yes, would have been nice to have a really great butt like a girl I would perhaps be looking at, but I also just really, REALLY admired it and would think how sexy she looks. I remember now sometimes convincing myself that I must be looking so much at that girls body because I really want it. Now when I look at a particular girls body, I know I just kind of want them.

Also, I didn't realize this until 25, so questioning and/or realizing at 20 is nothing unusual.

 

I'm glad you said this. Because when I was around 16, I thought I might be gay but then I said no I can't be and I pushed away the thought. Then when I was 20 I thought I'm definitely bisexual at least. And by the time I was 23 I knew I was gay. I felt like...how could I be if I didn't always know it? But I am.

 

I was attracted to women but still managed to convince myself it's not legitimate attraction :lol:

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Yeah, this.

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I knew something is up and that it's not just aestetic appreciation or that gender doesn't matter for me, but I though everybody is a bit bi, even straight people

 

I have a slightly similar experience. I remember reading a cosmo article about possibly being gay, and to try and think about it, and if you enjoy thinking about being with a woman sexually, then you could be, or could not. There were also articles about it being normal for straight women to enjoy lesbian porn because it's much more "sensual." But I remember that being a relief to me, and thinking, that's it!! And just rationalizing in my head that I loved lesbian porn because straight porn could be so harsh. :lol::lol: That's not to say that straight women don't enjoy lesbian porn, and are definitely straight. Sex is sex and if it's hot, it's hot and you can get turned on. It was the being slightly and afraid and having to convince myself that makes me look back now like :eusa_doh: . Then when I experimented with my best friend at the time (wasn't really that into it, but wasn't into her), I realized that I was definitely bi because I at least enjoyed having things done to me -- that doesn't mean anything, though.

Yeah. I felt the exact same way. Still do -- projecting, much? lol