I've been identifying as bisexual to myself for the past while and it seems like the most logical thing to do. I have a history of having crushes (definitely real crushes) and being attracted to guys in real life as well as male celebrities, as well as a history of being (mainly sexually) attracted to girls but not realizing it until recently. I am also in a relationship with a guy who I adore and I can see a future with him. That being said, I am still anxious about my sexuality. I can't stop thinking and worrying about being lesbian in denial and having to end my current relationship. Is it normal to still be anxious, even after you've found a label that seems to make sense? Why do you think this would happen? Any suggestions for moving forward? Thank you
Yes, for a while I felt anxious and unsure, because the whole situation seemed surreal. All I can advise is to not worry about not having the right label. You can change it as many times as you want, and nobody has the right to tell you you're wrong. You just need to give yourself some time to settle down. If you've had crushes on guys, and find guys sexually attractive, there's no reason that you'd actually be a lesbian. I know that when I first began exploring, I realised I was actually repulsed by the idea of being with a guy.
Oh yes, it's very normal. I still experience some anxiety with regards to my sexual orientation, even though I've accepted it months ago. I think we all experience anxiety about general matters, it's how we deal with it that matters. With sexuality, all it takes is time to accept yourself for who you are because there is simply no shame in being yourself.
That's fun, reading your post I find myself in the same exact situation!! I'm in love, but also I'm uncertain and anxious. Read my post and see if you can relate: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/sexua.../195649-confused-anxious-about-sexuality.html Just out of curiosity, how does you bf behave about your sexual tendencies?