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Boyfriend giving mixed signals gay, bi, idk?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by marquis, Nov 3, 2015.

  1. marquis

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    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    So I've been with my boyfriend for a little under 6 months now. I love him so dearly and he loves me too and we've been talking about moving in together. He's my first boyfriend and the first guy I've ever felt in love with. We met at an S&m party, and he's a dom and i'm a switch but leaning toward sub, but we have an equal relationship (though I sub for him often). I'm a little bit homoflexible (girls can be attractive sometimes), and he claims to be gay, but lately he seems very interested in women. He's a really dominant personality so people tend to be drawn to him, both men and women, but lately it seems like he can't stop commenting on women's breasts, bodies. Whenever i'm on the computer and pass a picture of a good looking woman, he'll comment so enthusiastically like "DAMN she's hot!", or "You should have sex with her!" (he's a joker). However its really rare that he'll see a picture of a guy and be that enthusiastic. At one party we were at he got a two hour long massage from a girl and felt up her breasts, and at another party he told a straight dom that he'd get excited if his gf made out with another girl at the party. He seems so comfortable with women and mostly has disdain for men. He mostly masturbates to straight S&M porn, and says its because he puts himself in the mind of a woman, and he had a dream that I became a woman and got a vagina. One time we were driving and he saw a woman in a miniskirt and was like, "Oh my god look at that woman in the miniskirt, you should catcall her!" When i was like, "Really?" he said "What, I like when women aren't afraid to be provocative" (its 2015, i don't feel like provocative women are a rarity). He also keeps talking about how he wants to put me in a scene with a hot woman, which I'm not opposed to but he seems obsessed with the idea. In addition, we haven't been having sex as often and he says he is too tired. The weirdest part is he says he's not bi, and won't even date a bi guy, but he behaves like a lot of bi guys I know that are more attracted to women! Any advice on whether I'm being insecure or is he giving me a reason to be worried, or both?