So I am still confused and questioning constantly am I lesbian? straight? bi? asexual?. My main reason for this is that I've never had a boyfriend or girlfriend and I just can't quite see anything clearly because of this. I suspect the real reason I can't decide without experience is because I might be bisexual, but I don't even know for sure and I don't want to label myself unless I know for sure. MY QUESTION IS: What if someone questions you during the questioning phase? What do I do if someone asks me about my preference? I get so scared every time someone starts talking about boyfriends/girlfriends or anything LGBT at work or school. My heart starts racing, complete fear. At my last job someone did ask me. She is a pretty blunt person, she is also a lesbian. She looked right at me near a bunch of people and just bluntly asked "are you a homo?" I was so shocked she would think that, I said "no" right away. At my new job it's terrifying! I don't know what I would say if anyone ever asked me what I prefer! I do a good job of pretending I am just on my phone or doing something else if the conversation comes up, but what if a question is directed at me? I don't want to say I am questioning and then have everyone begin to ask me a million questions because they never knew this about me before. Has anyone ever experienced this before? How do you get around it? What do you say? should I just lie? The problem is that I don't want to say I am straight, I don't want people thinking that because it's not 100% true, but I don't want anyone to think I am anything other than straight at the same time. It's complicated. What is even worse is if I do say the truth then they might ask if I have ever been with anyone and then I would have to say that I have never been with a man or woman before and then it will be a shit storm of questions and gossip. They will think i'm a freak because I'm already in my mid twenties. The truth is that I just can't find the right guy that I feel comfortable enough to go out with and I have never been asked out by a girl so I have no clue about that. Also, I kind of enjoy being a single unit. I don't know how to be anything other than single.
I think people who will actually ask are few and far between. You just happen to meet one and I suspect the odds of it happening again are pretty low. Saying that though, if it does happen again, and since it's nobody's business, I would make up a non-answer answer you can live with. "I prefer some Netflix and Chinese takeout." "If I had a nickel for every time someone asked me that..." "What you don't know won't hurt you." And then change the subject and/or feel free to ignore any follow-up or repeated attempts to question you. Silence is a perfectly acceptable response to indelicate questions.
"I don't know. Are you free? I'm not paid til next week" Yeah, ok, maybe not lol. Nah, no ones business but your own.
