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Confused About Gay vs. Bi vs. Straight?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Contact1111, Nov 12, 2015.

  1. Contact1111

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    Okay, the title basically says it all. I basically don't really know which of these three things I am. When I was a teenager, I was very strongly attracted to women. It was almost to a degree that was uncomfortable. The hormones were just driving me so strongly, and I wasn't having much luck :frowning2: Somehow, at first the female body itself didn't do a lot for me. However, I was very attracted to women in terms of their personalities and the overall vibe. As time went, I became very attracted to and curious about the general female form. I also had very strong crushes on women, but sadly none of them ended up being successful :frowning2: I had a certain nervousness about "what if" there was something that didn't work out with me when it came to sex, but other than there was no doubts in my mind. Then, I got into my late teens and began to think to myself that I might be bisexual for some reason. I started finding myself equally aroused by hearing about things involving two men as hearing about things with a man and a woman. I watched gay porn, and after the initial shock and disgust at it, I found myself enjoying it as much as any other type of porn. I would watch it sometimes, but I just liked it equal to straight porn. I found this curious, but I read that some straight men would find gay porn arousing, just because of the fact that it is something sexual taking place. This somewhat put my mind at ease. However, then I noticed that there was another guy that I was friends with that I somehow felt a certain attraction to in a way that was let's just say "more than friends". He would've found it extremely creepy if he knew I was thinking about him like that (and understandably so, since we hung out all the time), but I found myself fantasizing about this friend of mine sometimes. When we hung out, it wasn't awkward or anything though. We kept hanging out all the time, and there was no weirdness about it or anything from my end though. Then, I started just "feeling different" about my own self image. I began to feel somewhat feminine in terms of my energy. I always felt that way a lot, but it was more pronounced and evident to me. I used to just think of myself as possibly interested in/okay with the idea of getting head from another guy. However, then out of the blue I began to think about and wonder what it would be like to suck a penis. I began "fantasizing" with a certain object pretending it was a penis in my mouth. I found the whole fantasy extremely enjoyable, and it was basically like it was when I was younger first fantasizing about women. As time went on, these sorts of fantasies have become extremely commonplace. I think about it a lot, but I don't really look at or have any interest in men in real life. I also don't have all that much interest in women either these days. I hooked up with this girl a while back for the first time, and I enjoyed it greatly. However, I was unable to perform probably due to nerves. However, she commented that I was really good at eating her out and I really liked that :slight_smile: Nowadays, I think about all sorts of sexual things involving men and women equally in my fantasies. It's pretty random and variable what happens to enter my mind in this regard. I also have lucid dreams where I will have sex with pretty much anyone in them, and I always enjoy it :slight_smile: Speaking of dreams, even before I had an inkling I may not be "straight", my dreams typically involved having sex with either gender at an almost 50/50 frequency. This was odd, because at the time my waking fantasies involved strictly women. However, my dreams were basically a 50/50 mix of homo and hetero fantasies.
     
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  2. Xeron

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    Just remember that nobody exclusively fits into a label, they're just a simplified way of explaining something complex. That said, whatever you feel comfortable calling yourself will always be right for you. A lot of people have said it, (and I would agree,) that sexuality is fluid.

    So it sounds like you've thought about it a lot and mostly want confirmation of what you already know. The lack of experience with guys just throws you off, but you'd like to try.
    So to me, it sounds like you're bisexual.

    Hope this helps, and good luck finding annanswer.
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