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Still confused!

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by howtosavealife, Nov 17, 2015.

  1. howtosavealife

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    Ok so I think I'm like really weird but idk?? I'm physically and emotionally and romantically attracted to boys and I have always been aware of it and I know that much is true. So I know I can't be a lesbian... But I'm just really confused Bc I get really turned on by lesbian porn and sometimes naked women but I don't have the desire to actually do anything it's just like the view of it.

    I'm going to college in like 9 months and I guess you have to share bathrooms there?? I'm just afraid I'm gonna like be visually turned on by the other women there but yet I still don't have desires at all to do things with them?? So I'm confused as to what my sexual orientation is... Any ideas??
     
  2. bubbles123

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    Don't jump to conclusions yet! Porn actually isn't a great indicator of what your orientation is. And in fact, there are a lot of straight girls who watch lesbian porn (I heard it's actually about half the viewers of lesbian porn if I remember correctly). You can look into the actually studies on that if you're interested, but that's what I've heard. Another thing is that cis girls are more likely to get turned on by all kinds of porn that don't even match their orientation than cis guys are.
    So don't get too freaked out about it!
    If you do find out in the future though that you're attracted to girls a bit, then that's okay too. It's fine to like more than one gender. It's also common to prefer one gender more than the other but still like both. So just try to be open to what you're feeling. You can't force yourself to not feel a certain way, it just is what it is. But like I said, just because you get turned on by lesbian porn doesn't necessarily mean much about your orientation. Where it's really important is in the real world with real people and who you're drawn to.