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Attraction regarding same sex

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Lostinmylife, Nov 22, 2015.

  1. Lostinmylife

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    Just a small question for bisexual !
    Well i am trying the fact that I'm aroused to muscular guys (It used to never arouse me before but well people say sexuality is fluid..
    The thing i feel more aroused by muscular bodies than girls recently (really sad about it..)
    Maybe taboo + novelty so my question is :

    Did you also felt your new attraction was stronger when you discovered it ? Is it normal at the beginning ? Will it stay as strong or will it become "normal" I'm with a girl right now and with this pressure I don't feel aroused by girl as I used to be (maybe this is why I feel like guys are more arousing) also maybe because I'm chubby and they have what I'd like to have : manly and muscular bodie ?

    Thanks :slight_smile:

    ---------- Post added 22nd Nov 2015 at 11:30 PM ----------

    Being be don't bother me that much it can be stimulating the thing is I love girls and i'd prefer to be bisexual but more heterosexual (as I have always fancy girls,love sex with them , desir them for all my life) I see myself with a girl in the futur but it will become complicated if I am 60gay 40 hetero you know?
    I just hope the novelty x taboo x stress x confusion x maybe denial (even if I really don't feel I was in denial) x jealousy made temporarily muscular bodies more appealing
    The funny fact is that I don't wan to be f*** or f*** a guy it is more about touching his body

    ---------- Post added 22nd Nov 2015 at 11:44 PM ----------

    To add precision : it is not directed by face like I can be aroused by male bodie regardless of the face just because it is well built (abs and pec) hard to imagine myself kissing a guy or to fantasize over someone I know or even fantasize with a face . I don't know maybe I'm just curious about what it feels to touch someone muscular and well built maybe I just drove crazy after testing myself over and over (I though it was hocd at the beginning because I never felt attracted to guys or gay porn before all that , I used to see male bodies without feeling anything 3months ago ans i'm pretty sûre it was not denial)
     
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    I feel mostly arroused by guys. But some nights I only feel arroused by thinking about women. Its hard to understand because I label myself as gay - yet I still fantasise and feel butterflys around some girls.

    How old are yuou?
     
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    21!nobody to answer ?
     
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    Okay, just for clarity, would you say you admire fit and muscular men because they are toned, well defined and in good physical shape or would you say you are sexually aroused by them. You used the word aroused, but seemed to step back from anything sexual as you continued to write. I'm wondering if this is more about admiration and less about arousal.

    To try to understand better.. if your were in the same physical shape as some of the men you are thinking about, do you think the feelings you have now would strengthen, lessen or remain the same?
     
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    Hey first of all thank you for your time and I'm happy to be able to talk about it with someone your age (with age come knowledge)!
    I am going to tell you in a short way what I'm experiencing :
    -I used to be straight with some RARE gay fantasies (never about the bodie , just the curiosity of what does it feel to give oral sex) I was really confident about my sexuality ! Used to see shirtless guys in TV,series,videos,pictures or iat the swimming pool without never being aroused ! The "gayest thing" I did was having this tranny guilty pleasure (I think the curiosity of oral sex comes from there) . I am really shy (used to be afraid of showing my bodies to friends or girls fearing they would say I'm fat (I know I'm not or a little bit). I am in relationship with this wonderful girl , I was deeply inlove to the point I could have killed myself or someone else for her,seriously. I thought she was the one true love even if I was aroused by other girls (I use "was" because everything is so confused now) but after a couple crisis I had a gay dream and went crazy about it fearing I was gay in denial and that I couldn't stay with girls anymore. I began a severe depression fearing of myself , checking my arousal , testing myself to every guys I was looking at in the street . For the first two months I felt a weird sensation like arousal but never erect I think it was mostly anxiety but maybe some arousal . After 2 months of tests and depression I started to be able to get erect to gay thought and gay bodies (only muscular) and not with a wish to f** him or for him to f*** me more in a tactile way . Feel like i would be aroused by it . But I have never been excited by muscles before all that . Funny thing : I tried to see porn with muscular woman and I swear I got erected which led to more confusion about it ahahah.
    My psychologist think I'm straight and just over thinking , that it is a obsession . But people with "HOCD" usually don't feel aroused or erect by the pictures . Usually I don't get erect seeing picture of a guy but if I test myself with envy I can get aroused !
    Here is my complicated story !

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    I feel like if I had their body I could be excited just by touching myself (weird I think..)
    Sounds like a brand new fetish ... Ahah
    I really don't know who I am .. With this I feel like I lost my arousal for girls . I can still have sex and get erect but it is not the same..