Okay so my attraction to men has been undeniable since I was younger. I've only been physically attracted and romantically attracted to men, besides once when my friend and I would watch these videos on YouTube and we touched each other's boobs once... But she's straight as can be. I'm 18 and the first porn I've watched was lesbian porn and I know I wouldn't do anything in real life, but I have bad anxiety so literally when I get an obsessive thought in my head, it takes forever to go away. I really am not attracted to woman like "oh I wanna fuck you" when I see them naked, but it is nice to see... What do you think this means? I'm tired of being confused.
I'd suggest not using porn; it is an often inaccurate way of exploring sexuality and usually causes more anxiety than is necessary in the process. Many people watch porn that doesn't "allign" with their orientation, and porn is more often than not unrealistic anyways. When thinking about orientation it's much healthier to think about who you are sexually and romantically attracted to and interested in, and what you desire in a sexual/romantic relationship. You may also think about past attractions, or future ideals for relationships. I know you might be really anxious right now, but I promise you that you'll be alright. Don't worry too much about the porn, don't put too much pressure on yourself. Take your time and think about your orientation in a way that's more positive and healthy for you- seems like generic advice, but hope you're able to do so. And if in doubt, feel free to continue posting on EC if you have any questions.
I agree with Alder,he has given you good advice!If you don't see yourself being in a relationship with the same gender but you do see yourself being in a relationship with the opposite sex you are most likely straight.When I was first discovering that I was bisexual I kept trying to pass myself off as straight and fantasizing but the feelings were too strong an I could see myself in a relationship with either gender and I till feel the same way. Don't worry about it.You are who you are.If you turn out to be straight you could be a lgbt rights supporter!We welcome then all the time!And stop watching porn it is very bad for you mentally.I have it up age ago! Good Luck, TheBiBoy
Porn = No bueno But, take it from someone who's also questioning. You have the rest of your life to figure this out, so there is no reason to be worried about figuring out your sexuality. If you think you might like girls that's possible. But, know that you don't have to rush anything and that you will work this out. Sexuality is weird because there's SOO many different things to look out for.
Do not use porn. You know yourself if you have no feelings for girls and from what it sounds like u don't. Everybody can get attracted to same sex porn even though they are straight. So cut out the porn and use other anxiety release methods. Good Luck
