Doesnt help I am autistic and have depression. Growing up I was naive, I have always fancied girls and in late teens watched gay and trans porn. I have always fancied trans women the most (pre op) Lost my viriginity a few days before my 19th to a guy I met online and stayed the weekend at his, he was affectionate and though campish wasnt flamboyant (Which I hate), I can honestly say he was the best sex I ever had though I wished he was trans. Then had a few meets from online sites and of course didnt like them as it was faceless, and got a girlfriend aged 21 who was so unattractive she was the sort of person in street people would point and laugh, she had thick granny glasses, very short, very fat and had terrible hygine, I did like how soft her body felt and kissing her but could never get more than halfway aroused until we broke up and had a booty call and my whole body was excited and I was standing to attention, even she was making loud noises and breathing heavily and said it was the only time she enjoyed it with me, As I was shy and low self esteem I went another 4 years without sex till I had a online meet with this guy 15 years over, it was awful he never kissed me, never even used names, literally had sex with me and drove me straight home then a further 8 years without sex till I tried a transwoman escort, I was attracted to her but she was mature so not the prettiest and had little make up but was attracted to her personality and enjoyed kissing and touching more than any other person I have been with. I then tried another trans woman escort(as cant find any through dating websites) and after 5 minutes she said I was unable to perform and spent the rest of the time texting on her phone. Then tried a straight woman who I was attracted to but she also just gave me 10 minutes of touching and a massage then said time was up(when it was nowhere near) I then managed to flirt with a girl in a club and her flatmate decided to come back with her to mine, beautiful girls but seemed to just be the type who like sex, couldnt even get stimulated nor "finish" with them despite one saying she was a "goer" I disliked the taste of their private areas as it just tasted like loose flesh. I do like to touch, and rub oil into bodies and get them hot and bothered but only like sex when a woman is in control such as on top as then I can feel tight muscles. With guys I hate hairy bodies hence me liking trans women as the best of both. Just unsure what I feel as it seems I like feminine things but sexually prefer men for the most part.
Well, although there isn't exactly a specific name for it, it does sound like you know what kinds of people your attracted to - which is at least something. In terms of labels, a close approximation would be to say that your bisexual, but that doesn't really do your specific affection for trans-women justice. You could just go with the general purpose term queer. But what your describing, an attraction to femininity with male genitals (and also to sexually aggressiveness) is not uncommon. I'd say date trans women and very effeminate gay men. And know that there are online dating sites dedicated specifically to trans women and their admirers. One note of caution, though. Because it sounds like you prefer dick, be careful how you refer to trans women's genitals. Many trans women are disphoric about their genitals, and prefer them to be called something other than penis. For example, I've heard the term lady-stick or other similar things. The key here is respecting trans women as women, and calling them what they want to be called. I hope this helps. Good luck.
