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Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Mental, Dec 1, 2015.

  1. Mental

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    I'm guessing I'm bi because I like two other people of the same gender. But that's it. Does that count as bi?
     
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    No, Bi is liking 2 different gender.

    You are just polyamory.
     
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    Bi is being able to be interested in relationships/sex with women or men. What you have described is not bi.
     
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    Nope defiantly not bi. Possibly polyamory, but even for non-polyamorous straight or gay people having crushes on two people at once isn't really that uncommon. So you're probably just straight. Unless those two people are the same gender as you, in which case you're probably just gay.
     
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    So you're saying you have crushes on two guys. That means you're androphilic, and possibly (not conclusively) polyamorous. If you are also able to fall in love with/have sexual attraction to women, you may call yourself bi. (And if you are equally attracted, you are definitely bi).
     
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    I'd never heard the word androphilic before, but after google searching it I'm not sure how that makes sense for what our original poster posted. Can you explain it to me? (to be clear not being passive aggressive, just genuinely curious. I wanted to make that clear since tone of voice can be hard to hear over text)
     
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    Well no, meaning same gender as me. So they're both male, like me.
     
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    If you have primarily been interested in women in the past but have been interested in two men, you could definitely be bi (possibly with a preference for women). You could also consider yourself to be straight with a couple of exceptions, but I generally find that when you have feelings for someone of the same gender more than once (and more than just a fleeting crush) it's worth thinking of as more than just an exception. So yes, it sounds to me like you could be bi. If I misinterpreted what you meant, let me know.

    I think the people calling you polyamorous are jumping to conclusions because a) you didn't even say you liked them both at the same time and b) being interested in two guys at once is not at all on the same level as being able to genuinely be in love with and/or be in relationships with multiple people at once.
     
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    Bisexuality is liking both guys AND girls, and of course it doesn't have to be 50/50.

    However, you are saying that you like two GUYS. Do you like girls too?
     
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    @darkcomesoon You interpreted it pretty well, thank you.

    ---------- Post added 1st Dec 2015 at 10:27 PM ----------

    @Jax12 I am very leaning towards girls, and have been straight until recently.
     
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    Okay, then you are likely some flavor of bisexual.

    Do you have questions about this?
     
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    From here on out I'm good. One of my friends is bi and most of his friends that aren't also my friends are bi as well. So I think I'm good.
     
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    labels are defined by the user and no one else
     
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    Labels have to mean something otherwise they're entirely meaningless. However, they aren't set in stone, nor should you attempt to change yourself based on a label. If you want to have sex with both males and females, then you're bisexual. Like Jax said, it doesn't have to be 50/50. If you think you'd only like to have sex with 1 gender and not the other, then bi probably isn't the right label for you.

    I don't think I'll ever (want) to have sex with a woman again, so I use "gay," if I wanted to have sex with women as well as men, I'd use bi.
     
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    To define bisexual......I knew I liked both sexes as a young child. 3 to 4 years old I knew. I have had pleasurable experiences with both. Hard to say. My attraction has been the person above orientation.