I tried asking my gay friend how he know (???), but he told me that he'd always knew. I've sort of been questioning for two-ish years on whether I'm lesbian (even though I've always sort of know that I was a "weird one" xD). I've never been a relationship with anyone, kissed, or had sex, but I've naturally lent more towards other girls because of the whole "Oh you have a vagina? I have a vagina! Let's talk about our period horror stories" factor. I know porn counts for nothing, but I prefer porn with two girls over a girl and a guy. Pretty much, I've little to no experience with any other human. BUT I fantasize about having sex with another girl and absolutely cannot stop checking out other girl's butts/boobs. Here's my question: What was the tale tell sign that ended your questioning phase? How did you find out you were gay/lesbian?
My boyfriend said he always knew right from the get go, for as long as he could remember. I, on the other hand, did not know. He always saw females as friends, and never saw them in a sexual manner, which made him realize it much earlier than I did. Personally, for me, I am genuinely attracted to both females and males, but the attractions to females aren't enough for me to ID as bisexual, but rather homoflexible (mostly gay). After much time and questioning, being with my current boyfriend has made so much more sense to me about why it couldn't work with females. Holding my boyfriend's hand; it just feels so right. I think for a lot of people, there wasn't a defining moment they discovered themselves. As time went on, things just added up and began to fit the puzzle, as it were. Then you start seeing the border of the puzzle, then the the picture of your life form and become a beautiful masterpiece when it's complete.
Then I guess I gotta start looking for those border pieces xD. For real though, I love this analogy. I guess I was wrong? Until I find these missing parts, I probably won't be able to figure it out..
You might not be able to find it immediately, and that's okay. Some people just "knew", like my boyfriend. They didn't have to play around with what piece fit where, they just knew where it fit. For myself, I had to try and see if it would work (experiment for example).
Loving the puzzle analogy too I might not count because at this point of my life i dont know what I am and my ¿a?sexuality is so messed up but anyway the first time I ever liked a girl (or thought so) i was such a little child, I didnt even know that girls dont usually like girls, I couldnt wait to grow up and have a girlfriend like her ( but then I grew up xd)
When I told my dad that my favorite X-Men was cyclops because he was "handsome". Lol. Seriously though, my attraction for men has existed for a long, long time. I don't ever remember not being attracted to men. Like your friend, I've always known.
When I told my dad that my favorite X-Men was cyclops because he was "handsome". Lol. Seriously though, my attraction for men has existed for a long, long time. I don't ever remember not being attracted to men. Like your friend, I've always known.
As far as I remember I was first attracted to girls back in elementary days. I have a big crush on one of my very beautiful and popular girl classmate. I don't know back then what exactly I'm feeling that this me crushing on girls continues until now that I'm in college. I'am never out and no one knows I prefer girls over boys. Up until now I don't have a legit boy crush but I do appreciate their handsome faces sometimes.
