Ever since I was little I knew I was gay but recently I've had some issues. I feel like men compete me, I get that warm tingly feeling in my stomach that make everything feel better. But when I watch Porn (and I've watched stuff on both sides of the spectrum)or see something that would turn normal people on I feel nothing, I might as well be looking at a brick wall. On the few occasions I am turn on it isn't from watching porn it from a passion. I can't explain it any better, it's like being super in love Or see a couple who is, is the thing that turns me on, I'm so confused. I thought being gay was normal and I came to except the fact that I was and honestly, was a little proud. Now I HATE my self and feel like I'm cursed. Why can I be attracted to someone but not feel anything! I'm 16 too so isn't this the time where every thing should turn me on? All my other friends gay or straight are all in relation ships and I'm like "meh". Am i asexual, just never turned on or, is something medical wrong with me, I don't know anymore!
From what you describe, you aren't asexual, at least if we are using the widely acceded definition. And since there's no credible data that supports the idea that demisexuality is anything other than a part of the normal spectrum of human sexual behavior, you can toss that label as well So the next thing is to explore what's going on here. The most likely thing is that either the normal hormones that drive sexual attraction haven't kicked in yet (quite common at your age) or that something else is going on that is numbing you to normal emotional expression. This is almost certainly a solvable problem. So three questions: -- are you on any medications (or do you use any recreational drugs)? -- do you masturbate, and if so, how often? -- what is your general emotional state like? Do you experience much joy, excitement, exhilaration?
I'm on allergies pills, pseudoephedrine and chlorpheniramone. I don't do drugs,drink, or smoke. I used to masturbate once a day now I do it about twice a week. I'm depressed now but normally I feel nothing, I'm kind of empty in an emotional way. ---------- Post added 2nd Dec 2015 at 12:35 PM ---------- I do take medication, I take pseudoephedrine and chlorpheniramone but there over the counter and the side effects may be drowsiness and that's about it I also don't do any drugs Or drink. I used to masturbate once a day now its like 2 times a week. Well I always try to me happy (easier said then done) but for the past year I've been depressed other than that I'm like a husk, I don't really feel anything but anger if even that. ---------- Post added 2nd Dec 2015 at 12:37 PM ---------- Lol, I don't know how to post things properly. I posted the same things twice, just ignore one.
