Bi preference changes?!!

Well, this is my history. Society conditioned me to play the role of a straight male. Thus, my primary attraction was toward women. When I opened up to myself and acknowledged that I have some attraction to enbys (non-binary people) and guys, it sort of went like this: First, I ID'd as "bi leaning toward women", then just "bi", then "bi leaning toward men". I am a follow of queer theory and I believe sexuality is a fluid thing (to varying degrees, of course). So yeah, it can change a bit over time. Now, I'm mostly interested in guys. And yeah, happy that way. And yeah, I just noticed it, it definitely wasn't a conscious decision.

 

It is so confusing sometimes. I usually identify with a 4 on the "Kinsey Scale" but this might not always be the case. I also "have to make a difference" between sexual attraction and romantic attraction, not because I necessarily want to, it's just something I notice. It's definitely not a concious decision for me.

 

It's not a decision. You can't help being attracted to one gender over the other for a period of time. It just happens.

 

This is what happened to me. I was raised to feel guilty and suppress my attraction to the same sex which I noticed when I was a child. Once my opinions changed it didn't take long to realize I was bi though I naturally suppressed my feelings for girls and focused on guys. Now I feel confident about my sexuality occasionally then I tell myself I'm making it up and it changes a lot and it's very confusing. My preference could be males one week then both another.

 

Yep, I used to be leaning to towards men, then I opened up to myself about my attractions to women and they became more prominent, but I was still feeling a lean towards men. Then recently I seem to have been focusing in other girls enough that I could convince myself I was gay if I didn't know how strong my sexual attraction to guys can be. And there are always those days when my focus is pulled back a bit towards guys.