I'm lucky that I've always had a vivid imagination and live a rich fantasy life. I have strong sexual and romantic urges, but they only exhibit in a fantasy realm which skirts real life. I would admit I'm one of those typical dating ap 'time wasters' as I love the thought of a date... of a relationship... of sex, but find reality completely flat! I would say Im asexual in real life but a sexual fantasist. I keep fighting with the idea of whether I'm disordered in some way or am on the asexual spectrum and start to accept it. One reason is that asexuals are usually happy, and I'd say Im not..... or at least I constantly need the idea that a relationship might happen... even though I know I subconsciously don't want one. I'm scared of getting 'out my head' because my imagination is all I've ever known , and seriously don't think I could cope without it..
I feel the same way sometimes. Being single, all I have are my sexual and romantic fantasies. I think sometimes people can get carried away with fantasies. If we keep having more erotic and unrealistic fantasies, that may make life more boring; kind of like how watching too much porn can cause loss of sexual interest in reality. For me, I try to keep a balance, if I have a fantasy I'm aware that it's just a fantasy and I keep them realistic. I try not to focus too much on my fantasies because ultimately having sexual and romantic relations with a person in real life is way more exciting for me. I'm not asexual so I'm not sure if I can answer that part but I hope that this kind of helps.
I'm very self aware of my use of fantasy, but I'm getting to the point where I'm CHOOSING fantasy over reality. it seems problematic to me as I would Like to have a relationship... but then again Its probably the IDEA of a relationship that I want - so I'm probably better off sticking with fantasy! But in my fantasies I need to believe they might become real... if that makes sense? I own those fantasies, and it doesn't really effect or hurt anyone else so its quite benevolent.
I'm not sure what you mean exactly. If what you mean is that you're scared that a real-life relationship may not live up to your fantasies, perhaps you have relationship anxiety.
