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New boyfriend but not sure if bi

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Jorgim, Dec 10, 2015.

  1. Jorgim

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    A guy told me he liked me and we started going out. Only problem is I can't get it up for him, and am starting to question whether I am bisexual because I don't normally have this much trouble getting erect with girls. I am still really romantically attracted to him but don't want a platonic relationship.

    Should I break up? because I don't think this is going to work for me without sex.
     
  2. Distant Echo

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    How long have you been going out? Have you had sex with a male before?
     
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    I haven't had sex with a guy before him. We've been going a month and it's frustrating me but I still really like him
     
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    If he is your first guy, you may be feeling nervous with him, and that can negatively affect the quality of your erection.

    Do you feel turned on when you two are trying to have sex?
    One can be turned on and still have erectile difficulties if one is nervous.
     
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    This could be due to a number of things:
    1. Since this is your first relationship with a man, you are nervous and still struggle with internalised homophobia or simply just adjusting to this new experience.
    2. Your sexual attraction towards men is not as strong as it is towards women.
    3. You are not attracted to this specific individual sexually.

    Do you feel attracted to him? Have you felt sexual attraction to other men before?