Some months ago I was going through a really strong orientation crisis. I was realizing that I actually just want to have sex with girls, to the point that imagining to have sex with a guy was disgusting to me. Luckily I was able to get my shit together and consider myself a lesbian, or at least, almost a lesbian, and not thinking about it felt good, I could have all the fantasies I wanted and talk naturally about it with the people I'm out to because I finally knew who I was. Kind of. Because even if I thought I was a lesbian, I still had a crush on a guy. That crush had been going on for years, even before I had started to question all these things. I thought "maybe you're just used to think that you like him, and it will go away", so I didn't worry much about it, since it did seem I was just clinging on it to be at least 1% straight. The problem is that maybe a month ago I stopped liking him. Wait, this isn't the problem. What worries me about that is that now I like another guy, and I like him a lot, in a romantic/relationship way. Whenever I've liked a girl, and it has never been so strong as in with this guy or the former one, I've always thought about sex and felt aroused by it. But when I think of sex with him it's just... not the same feeling; but I ultimately want a relationship and not sex buddies with a girl. To sum things up, thinking about it gives me some "heteroromantic homosexual" definition, or bisexual/birromantic with either preferences. But that sounds so illogical... So I don't know, I'm thinking about it all day and I just want to get done with this and at least have a clue of my actual orientation...
Ok first of know that labels are umbrella terms for a variety of sexualities. I would definitely say you're bisexual (like both genders but not necessarily in the same way). I would look into the differences between physical, sexual, and romantic attraction. Hope this helped some what...
Heeey ets de Barcelona! qué fort Okay ill reply in english so other people can understand. Its true that "heteroromantic homosexual' is illogical. But some say it can happen. I actually hope not (because maybe i am homorromantic heterosexual wich sucks equally) but there seem to be many people who fall into those illogical categories Im afraid. Problem is that people only ask on the forums when they are questioning but they never do when they reach a conclusion so we really dont know if people falling into those categories were just going through a phase and eventually got their orientations aligned or they really were that way. However Ill just ask you a question (i sometimes ask myself) for you to consider: when you say you would rather have sex with girls and sex with guys seems disgusting, could it be that you are actually afraid that sex with a boy might be too agressive and it could hurt you, being sex with a girl something more delicate? Maybe it's not about being attracted more to men or women but how you picture the act itself? Asking that made me feel more confused xd but then again it made me feel I could be heterosexual which is NOT what I want for my definitely homorromantic orientation, but since you seem to be heterorromantic maybe it could make more sense to you.
I feel sort of similar the other way round. My crushes on guys have always been totally superficial, mostly based on looks because I was thinking about sex with them, but my crushes on girls are way deeper, both in the way I really care about their personality and pleasing them, but also because I go even deeper sensually and start being maddened by their smell for example. However, I find it much easier to get off to fantasising about guys and gay male porn than fantasising about girls and lesbian porn and I just generally feel my sexual attraction to men can be stronger. I just like to use bisexual as the wobbly label. As long as you know that you have feelings for guys and girls, then you can use it and define your own parameters within it. It has no clear definition so make of it what you will, it just means you have something to call yourself and you can explain in more detail only if you need to. I think bisexual can work fine for you. Don't try to pin down a label that states your exact feelings (e.g. heteroromantic homoaexual), it doesn't work like that, and since your feelings can change slightly, you'll never quite be happy with any specific label you have for yourself, so you might as well pick a good broad one like bi.
