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Orientation?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by howtosavealife, Dec 16, 2015.

  1. howtosavealife

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    I just need to figure this out once and for all... I know I'm not a lesbian, because I have sexual and romantic attraction to men and I want to marry a man and spend the rest of my life with him. I'm sexually attracted to men but I can't tell if I'm sexually attracted to women too.

    I get aroused by women in porn, like really arroused. And once I had touched my friend's boobs when I was 11 but that's the only kind of thing I ever did. I don't think I'd ever actually have sex or do anything with a girl, because it turns me on visually but that's it. And I don't feel like I'm missing out if I never do experiment. What do you think this means? Am I automatically bi if I get arroused by girls?
     
  2. Aeolia

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    Well, first thing first. I too get aroused by women in porn, but I'm gay. Porn doesn't mean anything about one's orientation.

    If you're only attracted to girls sexually, I'd say that you might be bicurious. Which if I remember well, is kinda average for a girl on a biological point of view (I might be wrong on that though).

    If you can fall in love with a girl then I'd say you're bisexual. Could you picture yourself holding hands with a girl, spending time with her, kissing her, just sitting around with her... All the things you'd do with your boyfriend ?
    If your single right now, you might want to try it.
     
  3. SHACH

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    As Aeolia said you've gotta think through things and work out if you can becoem comfortable with the idea of being in a relationship with a girl and then whether you'd really want that. If you really can't do that then you're more on the curious side and that's okay. I felt like I just had some attraction towards girls but I wouldn't go much further than a little experiment, but as I thought about it, researched about lesbian stuff and became more used to the whole idea I realised that I really want a relationship with a girl as much if not more than a guy so I've decided on bisexual. But that took a while and a lot of pulling myself up on why I thought certain things and such.
     
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