Okay, so I had though for quite a while now that I'm bisexual and biromantic. And I was fine identifying as that. But lately I've been finding myself less attracted to guys than I used to be. I cant tell if it's just an aesthetic attraction now or if it is sexual attraction. Could it just be part of the "bi-cycle"? I find girls attractive (I'm also a girl) too, hence why I identify as bisexual. However, I can't see myself in a relationship with a dude. In fact, I tend to cringe at the thought of it. When my parents, who I am not out to, talk about me finding a boyfriend I tend to quickly shoot that idea down. But I can definitely see myself in a relationship with another girl. I would like to be in one, too. So, does this mean I'm homo-romantic and bisexual? Or am I actually gay? I dont really know anymore...:bang:
Hi dragonsinspace, you'll have to excuse me... Are you saying you like guys romantically and both sexes sexually?? I'm a bit confused? Do you have experience with guys and girls?
Hi, sorry about the confusion. I'm not the best at wording things, haha. I'm sexually attracted to both sexes but romantically attracted to women. But I have noticed lately that I'm finding it more difficult to tell if my attraction towards guys is simply aesthetic or if it is actually a sexual attraction. I actually have no experience with either which is probably why this is so difficult for me to figure out. >_<
Ah thanks for clearing that up! Hmmmmm with no experience of either I'm not sure how to advise.... It seems you are more attracted to women but I have no idea really!!
No worries then. It's really just trying to figure out what label to identify as. I know most people would say that labels don't matter but I like having something to identify as, y'know?
Both 'lesbian' and 'homoromantic bisexal' could be appropriate labels for you. A homoromantic bisexual is a type of lesbian as well as a type of bisexual. It might be easier to just go with lesbian since you say that you can't see yourself dating a guy anyway.
That's what I was wondering. If I just identified as bisexual, as I had been up until now, it would make people think I'm into dating guys too when I'm not. I didnt know homo-romantic bisexual was a type of lesbian though, so cheers for clearing that up for me. I guess it does make sense. I'll have a think about all this but thanks for helping me! :icon_bigg
Saying you're homoromantic bisexual is like you're saying, "I'm gay and bi." Because the homoromantic part means gay (just specific to romantic orientation). You're welcome~. ^^
....some similar issues... Curious about the idea of "aesthetic attractive" above.... Actually it worries me (hence my "curiosity"), because I have feeling that my Herero romantic/ bi/homosexual self labeling might be in question if I'm just attracted to women because I find the beautiful ones.... Beautiful!!??
