Hey, so I am trying to figure out what this feeling in my penis means (if anything). The feeling can best be described as a "turned on" feeling in the penis, kind of like you are flexing the muscle, or when you are orgasming and are forcing the semen out (sorry for being graphic). Also similar I think to when just pissing and when youre at the end of your stream and trying to clear out the rest. I have been having this feeling whenever I get anxious. Especially around people and in public. I will be talking, standing, whatever, and since I struggle with social anxiety, I often may feel awkward, feel phased, etc. It is during these times, that I lose control of my penis. It feels like it is spasming, that I can't control it. It will continuously, or randomly do the the whole "turned on feeling." I also have a lot of tingling sensations in my nuts. Like a buzzing, stimulated type feeling. This can happen anytime, anywhere, though usually when I am thinking about my penis and the way it is feeling (the other "turned on" feeling also is more frequent when I think about it). I am trying to determine what this feeling means. I get this way around guys and girls. Sometimes, if talking to a guy or something, I will feel super awkard and feel that I have to leave the conversation, and my penis feels like its going to explode, and it feels like it is misfiring and going off in all directions. This is the worst case scenario, but definitely happens in certain situations, like if Im in a club by myslef, and then I suddenly start feeling super awkward, and then if a guy starts dancing in front of me, I will feel completely overwhelmed and my penis starts having this feeling. I do not know if this feeling is one of turned on or what. It definitely seems to be stronger when around guys. However, in any situation where I feel anxious and awkward I can have this feeling. I will get it around my uncles, my cousins, random girls, anytime I feel awkward. When I smoke pot, which used to be a favorite pastime of mine, I cant help but get extremely anxious, all up in my head and awkward. I cant sit next to a person on the couch without feeling the "turned on" feeling in my penis. It definitely seems to be directly connected to how high I am though, as I have the penis firings less and less as I get less high, and less anxious. I am trying to figure out what this means, if it is sexual, and if I am bi. I know I like girls, I have lusted after them and gotten horny to them for as long as I can remember. Not going to lie, that feeling of lust has started to decrease in recent years. I don't feel like I have a high libido anymore, and I dont jerk it nearly as often or feel horny to. I have tried looking both types of porn, I defintely way prefer male/female. Then female/female and lastly (I have done this once) I once masturbated to a penis, just a guy stroking his penis. It was not super satisfying but kind of was. I get turned off by normal male/male gay porn. So, I kind of think that I may be bisexual, based on my physical triggers and stuff, but at the same time, Im like, "it this really what its like???" Like I don't have lust for doing gay acts, or to do gay sexual things. TBH, I don;t really have that for women either. I havent felt super horny and wanting to bang something feeling recently (when I used to have it, and I definitely did, it was 100% straight, all for women, and I would get the lust feeling super strongly). Is being attracted to guys a profound feeling? I certainly don't have the lust or want for women, like when I was a kid, as now towards men. I just have this physical reaction in my penis around guys. Like a turned on type of reaction! I kind of feel asexual right now, like I cant control my penis actions and I don't get that lust anymore. If you are gay/bi, shouldn't you have lust for penis, lust to do sexual things with the same sex? I don't have this lust, can't jerk off thinking of guys or anything, but I seem to be turned on, at least have a physical reaction when I'm around guys and especially when im high (it gets really bad). No, I havent done anthing sexual with a guy. I have considered it, but I don't have any lust to do so and it doesn't seem appealing to me in my head. I am also 99% sure I would not be able to get any sort of erection, the thought does not turn me on. So, I am asking if this feeling I have makes me bi...? I know I like women. I still can think of sexual encounters I have had with girls and how much I have been turned on, etc. How horny I felt and how I wanted to do all sorts of dirty things to them, just feeling horny. Even writing this now I feel a "straight feeling" in my penis, and very much feel stimulation and lust (now is also an example of when I am NOT having any 'misfiring' and weird feeling in my penis). Is that strange feeling in my penis the feeling of it being attracted to penis? any bi people can comment if the way you feel turned on towards guys and girls feels differently in your penis? Sorry, this is confusing and long, its hard to put my feelings and stuff into text. Thanks.:eusa_doh:
I have the same problem. I even identified as bi for a while. I used to get those same turned on feelings around random people including my dad, cat and sister! When that happened I knew something fishy was going on. It turns out I overanalyse attraction so much I can make myself feel turned on when I'm not. You should try getting help from a therapist. Make sure they're familiar with CBT. Talk therapy will make it worse. If you can't find a therapist just learn CBT on your own.
