thinking about sex with a male makes me uncomfortable???

Hello,

I am a bit like that, in that I find it hard to tell the difference between finding somebody good looking, and being attracted to them.

I also find myself a bit uncomfortable with the idea of having sex with a man- it was not always like that, but I think it was kind of forced back then.

If you don't see yourself with a man sexually, are are uncomfortable with the idea but can with women, then you are most likely homosexual. Now what label you choose, depends on wether you think you could still be in a happy relationship with a man.

I don't necessarily think that the separation between romantic and sexual orientations is non-sense, but I do think that in the long run, whilst they might describe your sexuality accurately they are sub-sets of larger categories/labels, and in the end what larger label you take boils down to your relationship/sexual preference.

Technically I am panromantic/biromantic and homosexual, but I mostly say that I am gay- because I am not interested in being with the opposite sex.

Now, somebody else, in a similar situation might still go by bisexual or pansexual, because they could imagine in being with more than one gender.